what makes a real dad? the issue of callin a stepparent mom or dad
my ex hasnt seen his kids for one year because he moved to a different state than me. my hubby who I have been with for four years ( married one) does everything a dad does loves them. plays with them , gently displines them. my kids are 9 & 5 btw. my ex says it hurts his feeling when our girls call my hubby dad, but no one forces them . they want to call him dad.. then my ex has the nerve to be upset because I wont let the kids call his wife mom.. ok she hasnt seen them in one year & when she was here she saw them maybe 1-2 weekly she doesnt do the daily mom thing .. my hubby & I work our butts off taking care of these kids
note: my ex went months without calling, visiting his kids the oldest is still upset over that, plus he promised them to sleep over before he moved & he broke that promise.. I have to hear my kid complian about that as well. It was during this time my kids grew very close to my hubby..
if they saw thier stepmom more often & she was acting like mom ( right now she is more like an aunt)then I would excpet them to call her mom - not to mention they dont want to call her mom which is most important.. its funny my ex is adopted & is now talking to his boimom so you would think he would get how someone can love & want to call more than one person mom or dad, as he does call his biomom mom..
what do you thinnk about this?
I call my step dad "dad" all the time. He is more of a father to me than my bio dad ever was.
Door swings both ways op. Whatever the kids feel like calling the adults so be it. Doesn't run by your standards.
Quoting luvemboth:
I think the kids should be able to call each of the step parents whatever they're (the kids) are comfortable with, as long as it's respectful. Both bio parents need to realize their kids have other parental figures in their lives who love them also.
I think bio dad needs to accept that the kids have a father figure in addition to him, not instead of him, and it's ok for them to call him "dad." If the kids want to call step mom "mom" I also wouldn't stop them just because she doesn't see them as often.
This. It isn't about the adults. It's about the kids. And no one should be making them feel bad about their choices either.
Quoting luvemboth:
I think the kids should be able to call each of the step parents whatever they're (the kids) are comfortable with, as long as it's respectful. Both bio parents need to realize their kids have other parental figures in their lives who love them also.
I think bio dad needs to accept that the kids have a father figure in addition to him, not instead of him, and it's ok for them to call him "dad." If the kids want to call step mom "mom" I also wouldn't stop them just because she doesn't see them as often.
Too young for "the talk"????
- maiahlynn
on Jun. 20, 2012 at 1:15 PM