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My fiance's family is pressuring me to get pregnant, what should I do?

    My fiance and I have not even been together for a whole year and weren't planning on getting married till next year. We want children( I already have a son from a previous relationship) but don't feel that the time is right. Besides us not being married yet, we're not in a position to raise another child. Both of us are stuggling to gain our financial footing and aren't even living together yet.

   Here comes the kicker... We've been getting pressured lately by his mother and grandmother to get pregnant. His grandmother is in poor health and wishes to see a grandchild from her only grandson/ oldest grandchild. Im currently on the Implanon bith control and his mother said to me, " I have a pocket knife, we could fix that real quick". I know she ment it jokingly but really? We have been planning to start trying for a child after my birthcontrol expires which also happens to coincide with our wedding date but Nannaw's not sure she'll make it that long, she's 85. I'd love nothing more than to make her wish come true but I just don't feel ready for another child yet. What should I do? I also don't want to hurt her feelings, she's very emotionally sensitive...

by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 12:55 AM
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by on Jun. 25, 2012 at 12:00 AM

Thank you ladies for all your advice and support. I've decided to do what I feel is best and stick to my guns so to speak. If Nannaw passes away before she gets to meet this particular great-grand child maybe they'll meet in passing. Im going to wait until we're married, financially able, and maybe even have had a chance to live as a married couple with one child before adding a baby to the mix. Thanks agian ladies  :)

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