It's been 30 years since it happened and just as long since I've seen him...and yet, I was the one who felt as though I had no business being there! What I just can't se to process is how everyone keeps telling me "oh, it's been so long...you need to find forgiveness and let it go!" and how they treat him as though NOTHING HAPPENED! I witnessed my sisters abuse second hand...I heard her crying thru the bathroom door, saw the fear when he would come over to babysit, watch her wretch and gag after he had forced her to put his c$&k in her mouth and hide from him in our bedroom closet under piles of blankets in 100 degree weather!!! I was 5 and couldn't protect her then...I am so freaking angry right now at the people that call themselves my family...WTF???