My ex is military and DS and I moved back to our home state in late july of 2011 to be near my support system. It started out as a vacation to wait out the divorce decision from the EX while he went "camping alone" then turned into im staying here. DS's dad (my ex) fought very hard to get every other weekend in the divorce that finally finalized in april of this year. So far hes missed EVERY SINGLE ONE. He only calls once a month usually around the 20th if he calls anymore than that EVERYONE is visibly shocked. I wish he would at least seem him once a month! That way i could get a break!!!!!! I love my DS but working full time and having him every weekend is exhausting! I actually envy the women who have the every other weekend follow through with their exes. Id miss DS yes but just to be able to do what I want when I want for a day or so would be awesome. Not having to say cover your mouth when you cough 50 times a day, or PEE by myself!!!!To top it off the EX keeps telling DS that hes coming to see him "soon" or that hes going to cali to see the EX (that wont happen until hes six per divorce papers) my DS is almost 3. Soon to him is max a couple of days. Why does he keep doing that?