Absent boyfriend

Maybe he is just scared. Is this sort of behavior normal for him? He is probably worried about seeing you cut open. Have you talked to him about that?

Sounds scared to me.

My 4 year old was born via c-section and he was in the room with me the whole time.  Was totally fine with it.  He says he was there for her birth isnt that good enough? And he doesnt want to be there for this one.

Wait y'all have been dating for 20 years? That says a lot right there.

Be honest with him tell him no it isn't enough because this is a new baby, a new experience, and its something special. Tell him you want him there holding your hand just like he was with your first born. If that's what you want. Just be totally honest with him in a calm manner.

Quoting franticmommy:

My 4 year old was born via c-section and he was in the room with me the whole time.  Was totally fine with it.  He says he was there for her birth isnt that good enough? And he doesnt want to be there for this one.

Idk.  I don't get why either of you would want to remain bf/gf for 20 years...

My husband won't be in the hospital except while my c-section is being performed. I need him home with my other two kids. He'll be working right away as well.  My mom will likely watch our kids while he is at work when I'm in the hospital.

The kind that doesn't marry a girl after 20. Years!!!

We have never discussed marriage but have (until lately for me at least) been fine with our arrangement.  Our first daughter 4 years ago was unexpected as my doctors in the past had informed me that I would never get pregnant on my own. Now 4 years later, after being on birth control, I found myself again unexpectedly pregnant.  This time however, the first words out of his mouth were "You cant keep it"...  He has been completely dicsonnected throughout this whole pregnancy and now that we are 2 days away from having her, he has decided that he doesnt even want to be there.  He has taken this whole week off from work so that he can help me take care of our 4 year old and I thought, be there for me in the hospital, but apparently he has other plans.  He about had a heart attack when I called his dad and asked him to come meet us at the hospital to keep an eye on my daughter so that he could be there for me.  When I let him know that I needed him there for ME, his response was "who cares"...  My mom asked me how much more I could take and my reply was about a thinble full.  I am and have previously been on numerouos occasions, ready to walk out the door.  There are so many things wrong in our relationship that I am having a hard time finding anything that is right.  I want my daughters to grow up with their daddy but I dont want it to be at the expense of my happiness but I feel like if I leave I will be taking them away from him.  (I would move to Oregon to live with my mom until I get back on my feet).  He is not at all the type of parent that I am and I am having major regrets..