So my SS14 has a serious addiction to the internet and his cell phone. His BD and I feel that he is too young and not yet mature enough for social media and even though DH has said to the BM that he does not want his son to have access to sites like facebook or chatrooms or a cell phone, she has let him do it anyway. She says she doesn't allow it but when we catch him doing stuff she actually defends him.
She doesn't moniter him while he's using the internet and he has snuck into chat rooms, he has friended people that he has never met before in person and he has given out his personal information to all of them.
He even confessed to his friends that he's gay. We have no problem with him being gay, but it does have to do with what I'm talking about.
Around Christmas time he gave his phone number out to a 21 year old man that he didn't know. This guy started sending him perverted text messages and the BM just blocked the number. She didn't report the guy or take away the SS's cell phone.
Well, recently he's been caught sending messages out again. He deletes them before we can get the phone from him and he refuses to tell us what the messages said or who he sent the message to.
The BM took the cell phone away for the summer and is blocking his access to certain internet sites but he's still allowed to use facebook and youtube (which is where he talks to the people he's not allowed to talk to).
DH and I suspect that he is in contact with that same 21 year old man again. We want to take away his cellphone for good and ban him from using the internet since he has proven time and time again that he is not mature enough nor mentally prepared enough for either.
He has endangered himself, his mom, his grandparents, his uncle, his father, myself and his siblings (two of which are my daughters) by giving out his personal information to this man as well as others who he has never met in person. People that are claiming to be kids but for all we know could be 40 year old sex offenders.
DH suggested that we get the transcripts for the text messages but the BM won't do it so we're going to the police to see what help they can offer us. Is there anything else that we can do?