I need legal advise but no one can give me a straight answer. Please help? *UPDATED AGAIN*
I don't have the standard court orders in our divorce. I have full residential custody and we have joint custody as far as decision making. He has to give me a two week notice to see our kids, even on certain holidays. He goes around telling everyone that I keep them from him but he won't follow the court orders and keeps canceling on them. He even wanted them on a weekend that I made plans, we went out of town, when he had 2 dedicated weekends out of this monh. ( I worked around those weekends and he didn't want them then.) He wants to see them in October for a day. He hasn't seen them in over a year in July. He has made the comment to me that I don't need to know where the kids are as long as they are with him. Now because he has not followed orders on giving me an address to where he lives, DO I HAVE TO LET MY KIDS GO WITH HIM?
An update. My X wants to see the kids but still won't follow court orders. He was getting angry with me for asking for his address. He asked if he can see them so my response was, Are you going to follow court orders? I told him it depended on him. He asked over and over if he could see the kids. I kept telling him it depends on him. He gave the phone to his friend and his friend immdiately started to yell at me and swear at me. I never did tell him no. I did hang up on him friend when he did that. I sent him a text telling him that I won't tolerate his friends swearing and bullying me to do things. I'm not playing games and it is between him and me not other people. . My X even tried to turn things around on me and asking why I was bringing in his sister into it. I told him I didn't say anything about her. I just asked for an address. He said her address hasn't changed. I told him that he doesn't live there because she is in a defferent state and city. (He works 3 hours on the other side of me and she lives 3 hours the other directions so they are 6 hours aparty. There is no way he is living with her). He got mad because I'm calling him out on his lies. He hasn't even tried comtacting back yet to see the kids. NO BASHING PLEASE! SO what do people think now?
Okay I finally was able to take him back to court. And for the bashers who thought I had too much control at the time, well, I have all of the control now. So that has to say something about what kind of person he is! I talked to my lawyer and told her what was going on. She said I had every right not to let him see the kids for him not following court orders. So she went ahead and modified the orders. So in the state that I live in, I already had orders standing so the court papers only had to be mailed to him not served nor certified. And because he wouldn't give me an address, they were sent to his last known which was from 2 years ago and the papers had gotten sent back. So he had no idea that I took him back to court. But in the papers, they were stating that he refuses to give an address like he is suppose to in court orders, he and HIS family were doing derogatory language about me in front of the kids. So not I have sole custody, visitations at my discretion, and if he has visitations, they have to be supervised by anyone that I appoint to. It could be me or anyone that I know and want to have them do it. This shows how much this man actually cares about his kids that he can't do what what court orders and it came down to this. Yes everything was done legally because my lawyer wouldn't do anything other of course. He dug his own grave and lost his kids. He hasn't asked to see them yet either. So the subject has not even came up on him being supervised. Now its been well over a years since he has seen his kids at I haven't stopped that at all.