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DAUGHTER GOT A BDAY CARD FROM "DONOR"

Posted by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:35 PM
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IDK what to think & neither does she! Sat. was her 7th bday! Today, my Mom called & said that HJ got 3 bday cards from her biological father & his family! After not seeing her in almost a year, they send her cards!! 1 was addressed from him & the other 2 were addressed from his last name (that's how PaPa always addressed his mail)!! She's terriffied of her biological father!! She doesn't know what to think!! Should I go over there & get them for her or just throw them away?? She loves/misses her Granny & PaPa & brother & sister...I know they miss her too, but they don't have anything to do w/her anymore!! IDK what to do?

by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:35 PM
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mamakenzi
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:37 PM
I would get them and put them up if she doesn't want to read them now. She may want them later in life.
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huntersmama711
by Bronze Member on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:38 PM
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I agree

Quoting mamakenzi:

I would get them and put them up if she doesn't want to read them now. She may want them later in life.
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naumann24
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:39 PM
This or you could go get them and tell her you can open and read them with her if she wants. Just let her know u support her decision either way.


Quoting mamakenzi:

I would get them and put them up if she doesn't want to read them now. She may want them later in life.

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SexyTeacher
by Gold Member on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:45 PM

I would get them and let her decide if she wants to read them.

gigules04
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:49 PM


That's what I was thinking!! The last card she got was a year ago & she wanted to tear it up a couple of months ago when she found it! I convinced her not to b/c she might want it when she gets older! She told her Daddy that she wanted to open the ones from Granny & PaPa & not her biological father's! I sent them pictures last year of her & they were sent back to me! It hurt me so bad that they did that!

Quoting mamakenzi:

I would get them and put them up if she doesn't want to read them now. She may want them later in life.


Malley
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 6:22 PM
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 I know it's her mail, but she's only 7 so I'd open them up and read them myself first before I made a decision. I wouldn't let her read something that could potentially upset her.

gigules04
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 4:18 PM

UPDATE:

Well, My Hubby, Hayley Jade & I went to Mom's yesterday & got HJ's bday cards! We read them first, before we let her read them! It's been almost a year & a half & he gave her $11!! LMBO...they were all signed from "I love you, love Daddy" (yeah right, it should've been Donor)! They ALL said that "I hope you get these cards & $! We all love & miss you!! " HJ looks @ my Hubby & says "I just want the $, you can throw away the cards since they're not from Granny, PaPa, or her bro/sis, ok Daddy! lol" The cards themselves were sweet, so why did he have to writ on them...lol! One card had a $5 bill, & the other two had $3 in them! WOW...$11! The only reason she wanted the $ was to make it an even $60 that she got from her bday! When we got home, I put them up...she might want them when she becomes a teenager or another time!

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