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The only experience that I can pull from is having a spilt family. My son goes to his dads for the weekend and then he lives with me all week. My son's father and I didn't stay long when I was preggers. From day one my baby boy was at my home then at his fathers home. My boy has never known different. Around 2 1/2-3 he began to act out at my house. After beating myself up thinking its something I did I realized that my home and his fathers home are very different.
I had to be very patient but eventually he understood that certain behaviors are not allowed at moms house. He figured it out. Just keep telling you child that certain behavior that was ok in So and So house in not allowed in your new home.

Hi,  I really feel for you.  It is a challenge not only to be married and keep your marriage alive more less bringing a child intp the relationship.  Now it sounds like your toddler has picked up some bad behaviors from this other older child.  How sad for the other child to be so miserable he has to act out in a negative manner,  Many times kids do this because they want attention and/or are bored.  It sounds like your child is plenty young enough you will be able to have a huge influence on his behavior.  I'm yelling you, if you do not set good morals and values into your son by the time he is a young teenager, it's a bit too late.  The good news is, you have plenty of time.  I would suggest you spend as much quality time with your child as possible.  Play games, do art projects, go to a museum etc.....have fun, teach him how to have fun and be positive.  Try very hard to use positive reinforcement as a dicipline means.  You will see so many positive responses from your child.

What do I know, I am kist a mom of two kids in their early twenties, I taught school and have seen a lot.  This is just some advice from a Mom who has been through it already.  I wish you the very best!!  

Take Care,

Sadea  :)

do you think maybe he is just in a terrible toddler stage??? or that he is acting out due to the move???

I have no experience in this. I just wanted to say good luck. Hope you get something figured out soon.

It took a year for him to learn this behavior so it won't be unlearned quickly. Your best bet is patience and consistency with disciplining.

i suggest going to a parenting class/ counseling to learn how to effectively deal with this.  And it wouldn't hurt you and dh to go to marriage counseling and get  your marriage back on track, after your lives were disrupted in this way. 

I would just really be consistant with teaching him right from wrong all over again. Its not his fault. He knows no better. Discipline with love and patience. He will grow out of it since he is only 3. He won't even remember that year.
Don't let it all bother you to the point of destroying your marriage. Take a deep breathe and work with your husband. Ik it can be hard and frustrating but those type of problems will just make the probs with your son worse. He needs you both to be strong and show a united front.
Everything will be better before you know it. Just remember kids follow by example.

I agree counseling for the child and the marriage could help.

Also consistency with the rules and rewards / consequences of the house hold.

I would NEVER leave my cats alone with him until such time as you know that he has learned not to hurt them. 3 year olds can hurt cats by accident even when they haven't been taught to beat them up. Make sure too that the cats have a way to get away and hide from him. They need a place of safety.

this happen to me I let my bff move in with me cause she lost her home at that we had 2yr olds one month apart. Well her 2yr old was very misbehaved she would hit, bite, cuss, and was looking for something bad she could do constanly. When I saw this I tried to keep my daughter on her toes so bad habits wouldnt grow on her but it's inevitable kids love to follow bad behavior. So after my friend left we started all over with the discipline and was frustrating but it got done. It just takes time and dedication and alot of spending time with your child and soon he will be trying to follow what you show him. Ya'll can do it good luck.

Dicipline your child when you see him do something you don't think is right stop him at that minute it will take time but you do it instantly! and soon he will stop because he doesnt want to get in trouble and you should've been doing that he you'll lived there and there wouldnt be a problem