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Biological clock

Posted by on Jul. 10, 2012 at 4:48 PM
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Just feeling like I need to talk about this & hopefully get input from other moms that get what I'm saying. I have two kids already- a 4 year old boy & a 2 year old girl. I'm "only" 25 years old so yes, I do know I'm no where near out of time to have more children. I feel much older than I actually am.. maybe because I had my first child when I was only 20 or maybe because having kids has made me feel older. I turned 25 in May & joked that I was really 30, the kids aged me two and a-half years each. But I really don't feel young anymore. Anyways, getting to what my post is really about- I want another baby but I want to have the baby before I'm 30.. 29, actually. Which could be what's making me feel that time is running out. Doesn't help any that I want to be married first. I'm not with the father of my kids but in a relationship with someone for a year and a-half. Which is why i want to be married first, I don't want just another "baby daddy". I guess none of it really matters if my boyfriend isn't ready. I don't know if there's even a way to respond to this but if anyone has anyways to deal with the biological clock feeling, that'd be great. Thanks if you took the time to read my rambling.
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xomissvee
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 2:53 PM
I know, I'm trying not to worry about it too much- I feel like I'm running out of time but I know I'm no where near out of time. I just keep reminding myself of that.


Quoting LuLuRex:

I can understand how you feel. I wanted to have all my kids before I was 30 but things didn't work out that way. Sometimes life doesn't go exactly how you plan it, so just try to roll with it :)


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xomissvee
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 3:08 PM
Yes, I'm definitely thinking things through. My kids that I have are my main priority. I would never have another baby without my two having everything they want and without myself being financially stable. I know there's too much going on in my life right now to have another baby, I got an IUD for just that reason. It's good for 5 years (4 more in my case) & thats when I am hoping it will be the right time. My kids will be a little older & we will have everything worked out that needs to be.

I know my relationship will eventually lead to marriage, I have no doubt about that. He's everything I could've asked for. He loves me and my children & we all love him. I couldn't ask for more. He's my best friend, he's done so much for us already. I know we're going to get married.. we talk about it & he tells me he wants to marry me. So I know that's where its going I'm just being impatient. I'm no good with being patient.


Quoting DarlaHood:

I am just really glad to see that you are thinking it through.  You want a baby, but you want to have a good, stable situation with the right man before you do, and that is so FANTASTIC, and unfortunately, much more rare than it should be. 

Are you feeling pressure because you really think this current relationship is not going to lead to where you know you want to go?  Or are you just a little impatient about how long it might take?

If you know it's not the right relationship, perhaps that is making you feel anxious about how much time you want to spend in it.  Or maybe you don't know yet.  Just open yourself up to what you really want - whatever that looks like.


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grouchymama
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 3:33 PM
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Enjoy your kids. I wanted to have my kids when I was young but, I didn't meet DH until I was 35. I am so glad I waited. It wouldn't have been the same without him:) You have plenty of time to wait until you and your boyfriend are both ready.

katiebeth1821
by Silver Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 6:43 PM

i know how you feel he doesnt want to get married we have been together 8 years with two kids now but things arent going well.

I hope things go good for you. It comes down to how important to you to get married before are you willing to not have a child for it. Not that im saying that will happen but if you are going to stick with the marriaage thing you have to be prepare that could happen.You still have some time so dont worry to much.

Let him know you dont want to have a child when you are 30


masonsmommy921
by Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 6:59 PM
I liked the way you said "it wouldn't have been the same without him" so true. I have a son from a previous relationship but this pregnancy is with my husband and soulmate and it's so different in such an amazing way :)

Quoting grouchymama:

Enjoy your kids. I wanted to have my kids when I was young but, I didn't meet DH until I was 35. I am so glad I waited. It wouldn't have been the same without him:) You have plenty of time to wait until you and your boyfriend are both ready.

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