MILis dying and no one has told her grand daughter. WWYD?
There are 7 grandchildren.
MIL is in a nursing home (due to the fact that she requires specialised medics care) we were advised on Monday night that she had had a stroke and it wasn't looking good that family should gather to say goodbye.
The middle brother "T" has proven extremely difficult to contact to let him know what is happening. T has a 16year old dd who has been very close with MIL my issue is that no one in DH's family has told the GD what is going on with MIL - they are waiting to contact T so that he can tell her. Now keep in mind that they have contact number for GD's mother and could get her to tell GD they won't until they have spoken to T, why? Because she will be pi$$ed at hearing it from people other than her parents.
We went to the hospital yesterday and the nurses told us it is essentially a matter of hours or days - possibly weeks at the most. I am concerned that my niece is not going to be told in time and she is going to miss the opportunity to say goodbye.
I am tempted to call my niece and let her know, I will also pick her up and take her to the hospital to see MIL if that's what she wants.
I want to respect my DH's family's wishes but I think my niece has the right to know now (who knows how long it will take to make contact with T) so that she at least has the opportunity to say goodbye? In the same situation I would be far more pi$$ed if no one told me till it was too late.
So my question is would you ring or not?
** UPDATE ** Thank you ladies for your advice. I have DH and his family an ultimatum either they get their fingers out and find T or someone tells GD by 8pm last night. DH's sister told GD about 6pm and GD has been to see MIL (I have confirmed this with home) I don't really care if they find T it is his right to drop off the face of the earth but his daughter still deserves to know what is going on with her GM.