My DD's bio father and I split 3 year ago when she was not quite a year and a half. I have since remarried a wonderful man who is everything a woman could want in a husband and a father. He is amazing with my DD, he treats her as his own. You would never even know that they were not biologically related.
My DD sees her dad semi frequently through a custody order. The CO states every other week end from Fri to Sun. There are times though that he chooses not to exercise his visitation. He is also allowed to call her when he wants, sometimes that is every night before bed for a week or two, sometimes he will go a week without calling.
When the phone calls do come, she does not want to talk. When its time for her to go to his house she doesnt want to go. She cries and says she wants to be with my husband and I.
I dont know what goes on over there that would make her not want to go or why she doesnt even want to talk to him. I NEVER bad mouth my ex. I have done everything I can to help foster a healthy relationship for them. I have arranged for them to attend father daughter dances, suggested different kinds of activities they can do together, supplied him with materials for activites she enjoys, etc.
When asked why she doesnt want to go with him, her only response is because she loves me and my husband and wants to stay with us.
How do I deal? How do I help her deal?