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My 6 1/2 yr. old talk nonstop afraid its causing difficultly in peer relationship

Posted by on Jul. 15, 2012 at 1:13 AM
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what do I do when my son talks nonstop to friends and gives them no chance to speak and thus makes them less likely to want to hang out with........... :(

Posted by on Jul. 15, 2012 at 1:13 AM
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AM-BRAT
by Amber on Jul. 15, 2012 at 1:19 AM
Practice at home with him?

Idk my kid of scared of her own shadow lol. Opposite problem here.
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emmy526
by Silver Member on Jul. 15, 2012 at 7:38 AM

Tell him he needs to let his friends talk too, and if he doens't, he may find himself with no one to play with.  If your persistant in pointing it out to him, and he does it anyway, then let him suffer the natural consequences, and when no one wants to play with him, then tell him maybe it's because he talks too much, and doesn't give anyone else a chance to say anything.....another idea is to role play with him, and YOU start talking so he can't get a word in edgewise, and see how HE likes it...and of course, the friends also need to speak up and tell him they want to say something, and if your son is making them angry by the nonstop talking, then THEY need to let him know that. 

Mommy2justone
by Platinum Member on Jul. 15, 2012 at 9:17 AM

Maybe talk to him about it, explain that his friends have important things to talk about and he needs to be a good listener. Teach him not to interupt when someone is talking and then he can talk when it is his turn. How old is your son?

Kaymad41
by on Jul. 15, 2012 at 11:22 AM
Does he talk non stop with you as well?
bamababe1975
by Silver Member on Jul. 15, 2012 at 11:26 AM

 He's young, and I really doubt that talking a lot is enough to make them not want to hang out with him. kids that age are fickle, though. I'd sit down with him and explain that he should take time to pause, think, and listen to what the others say, too. Let him know that it's just as important, or even more important, to be a good listener with other people and that he doesn't have to say every thought that comes into his head.

Mrs_Incredible
by Gold Member on Jul. 15, 2012 at 12:16 PM

My son has a similar issue. so watching this post.

ButterMeUp
by on Jul. 15, 2012 at 12:26 PM

I talk A LOT. My Dh just tells the frankly to wrap it up ( I can get a little long winded sometimes). When we are in public he will place his hand on my waist as a sing to either wrap it up or stop interrupting. I normally just don't even realize I do it. He's my little helper lol

mamakenzi
by Kenzi on Jul. 15, 2012 at 1:26 PM


Quoting bamababe1975:

 He's young, and I really doubt that talking a lot is enough to make them not want to hang out with him. kids that age are fickle, though. I'd sit down with him and explain that he should take time to pause, think, and listen to what the others say, too. Let him know that it's just as important, or even more important, to be a good listener with other people and that he doesn't have to say every thought that comes into his head.



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Leissaintexas
by on Jul. 15, 2012 at 7:24 PM
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When my son was young, he did the same thing. He was eventually diagnosed with high functioning autism(not saying your child has it) and I found out that his inability to give and take in conversation was a result of his autism and not reading hte social cues of those around him. Reading body language and sensing those subtle cues is a learned skill for some people, rather than intuitive. Practice these things with him, play "Guess The Emotion" using different facial expressions and eventually he will start to see how others feel. If all of this doesn't stop the behavior, then I agree with another poster who said to let him feel the consequences.

neslonturf
by Member on Jul. 15, 2012 at 7:51 PM
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My son does this...but, he's an Aspie. We just talk about it with him. It's just teaching social skills...some kids don't pick up on it naturally. 

1. How would you feel if someone just talked all the time, and didn't let you participate in the conversation?
2. Would you feel included?

Then talk about asking other people questions, and listening for answers, and commenting on answers.

Then...I know it sounds lame but, ROLE PLAY it with them.

It really does help.  

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