Toddler hiting! NEED HELP

Keep up with one thing. Distract and timeouts. It won't be forever.

Who does he hit?

I believe in spankings but dont use them to teach not to hit.

Agree on one method

Quoting AM-BRAT:

Keep up with one thing. Distract and timeouts. It won't be forever.



Who does he hit?

 He will hit his little sister which is one and his step brother when he comes over which is eight. Sometimes he will even come up behind me and hit me. I was afraid of spanking him for hitting because I figured it would confuse him. Most of the time he will say he didnt hit that he spanked her :/ which shows me that I shouldnt have spanked him but it just seems that the time outs doesnt work..

Quoting lAM-BRAT:

Keep up with one thing. Distract and timeouts. It won't be forever.

Who does he hit?

 

Positive reinforcement, give him words and proper outlets. Talk to him in advance about what is ok to hit. Give him a pillow or something and explain that when he feels like he needs to hit he can hit it. Let him try it out.
when you see he is about to hit say "I see you are feeling mad/frustrated / upset/etc remember, if you feel like you need to hit go hit your pillow."
It works :)

Tough. I'm not against spanking but he sounds like he's playing you a little on what he was doing.

When my 2/3 yo was biting my daycare baby I did my best to distract and NEVER left them alone together. Tough, but can be done.

Quoting bamamom474:

 He will hit his little sister which is one and his step brother when he comes over which is eight. Sometimes he will even come up behind me and hit me. I was afraid of spanking him for hitting because I figured it would confuse him. Most of the time he will say he didnt hit that he spanked her :/ which shows me that I shouldnt have spanked him but it just seems that the time outs doesnt work..

Quoting lAM-BRAT:

Keep up with one thing. Distract and timeouts. It won't be forever.

Who does he hit?

 

 Thanks! My step son is coming over tomarrow so I will have to try this out. Hope it works for my kid lol

Quoting JasonsMom2007:

Positive reinforcement, give him words and proper outlets. Talk to him in advance about what is ok to hit. Give him a pillow or something and explain that when he feels like he needs to hit he can hit it. Let him try it out.
when you see he is about to hit say "I see you are feeling mad/frustrated / upset/etc remember, if you feel like you need to hit go hit your pillow."
It works :)

 

Spanking for hitting does NOT work. I work in day care and deal with this issue a lot. First, is the older sibling hitting the younger one? The best thing to do is to firmly hold the child's hands and firmly say "hitting hurts!!" "hands are for hugs" "please stop, I don't like you hitting me". If it works with 8 2 yr olds at a time, it can work for 1 child.

I am a firm believer in NEVER spanking a child for ANY reason, EVER.

Sounds like he wants attention. My 16 month old twins hit each other already. When frustrated, like when they get tired, overwhelmed for any reason and when they hear bottles in the microwave. When they do it cuz they are overwhelmed I separate them from the situation, I've let them wail and throw a fit on a bed and then hold them till their mood is better. If my toddler kept coming up and hitting me, I would turn around with a sad face and say "oh no baby! That's not nice to hit. Why don't we play with _______ instead!" And start playing with him. That's teaching him how to properly deal with his emotion. He wants you to play, so he hits you and you turn around mad and it makes him giggle. Instead you want him to not hit at all and learn to ask for what he wants.

 I believe in spanking too but my son thinks he is a grown up lol. He will tell you that he is a grown up kid which I explain to him that he is just a kid and mommy is the grown up. But what ever I do when I get on to him he will do it to his sister if its froming hiting to pointing fingers. I just cant gt him to undersatnd. But I will try the time outs some more and just keep explaining

Quoting AM-BRAT:

Tough. I'm not against spanking but he sounds like he's playing you a little on what he was doing.

When my 2/3 yo was biting my daycare baby I did my best to distract and NEVER left them alone together. Tough, but can be done.

Quoting bamamom474:

 He will hit his little sister which is one and his step brother when he comes over which is eight. Sometimes he will even come up behind me and hit me. I was afraid of spanking him for hitting because I figured it would confuse him. Most of the time he will say he didnt hit that he spanked her :/ which shows me that I shouldnt have spanked him but it just seems that the time outs doesnt work..

Quoting lAM-BRAT:

Keep up with one thing. Distract and timeouts. It won't be forever.

Who does he hit?