Long story, I'll try to make it short. I have virtually no family. I married my husband when my child was 8, he is now 17. My inlaws treat my kid like he basically doesn't exist.....and me the same. His mother is very sweet to me but only when hubby is around. They are good as gold to my BIL and SIL and their two kids. They are constanly buying them things, like 5 acres at the same time we bought our own, multiple vacations to Disney, a car for their son right after we bought my son one, huge christmases, birthdays, etc. Their walls are covered with pics of the BIL's family but only a small one of my son from 6 years ago and one of my hubby from 20 years ago. They did offer us money for our wedding but I refused after they wanted us to promise that we wouldn't tell the BIL and his family. BILs kids are about the same age as my son. It sickens me that my son has been treated second class for so many years. He has no family. We were invited to their lake home for July 4th but told we would have to sleep outside bcause it would be too crowded. It's gotten to the point that I only go there when I have to. I used to blame my SIL, who hates me for an unknown reason, but I blame my in laws for letting her control them. SIL tells family members I am a gold digger and drug addict, neither of which is true. i always worked and she never did. I was very much self sufficient before getting married. My son never gets invited to anything and they never show up for him at any of his important events. Oh, I got a bday card a week late this year but they take the SIL to a local theater every year for hers.
The best part, a couple of years ago while I was still accepting being treated like crap, my MIL came to me and wanted me to promise that I would take care of her if she ever gets sick. her reason? She thinks the SIL would "abuse her" because she is so mean to her now. It was shortly after that when I realized how sorry we have been treated, especially my son, throughout the years. I confronted my MIL about it and her response was that it was not her fault that we don't have family. I told her that she sacrificed her relationship wiwth us to appease SIL. She didn't respond. My husband tried to talk to them a couple of years ago about it. They made excuses and nothing changed. Now, whenever I bring it up, he finds a way to blame me. It's my fault for "obsessing" about it. It's my fault because I shouldn't care what they think. He gets defensive and it leads to huge arguments. I feel that he has accepted how we are treated and, in turn, it is like he thinks we deserve it. he still goes there regularly to visit without us, wich I'm sure is what they want. It is to the point that I'm considering divorce. Honestly, I should have dealt with this YEARS ago but I battle self esteem issues and, looking back, I guess I felt like I deserved it.
I know I've rambled but there's just soooo much to this story......
What should I do? I'm at a crossroads where I'm tired of feeling the way I do and I know I don't want to live like this the rest of my life.