My son will be 7 weeks old this comming tuesday. I have been home with him everyday of the week since he was born. He is the best baby, and I love him so much! But I must admitt its been a hard adjustment. I have never been one to go out and party but for some reason I really feel like my social life is gone! It is very hard for me to sit at home and now after 8 weeks of bed rest and almost 7 weeks of straight baby..I want to go drink! Even just one glass of wine. My b.f drives a truck and is gone during the week and home on the weekends. and I am a bit jelouse because when he gets home he doesn't come see his son or even offer to give me a little break. He goes out Friday night, and most of sat and then we see him sat night and sunday. I love when he is home but can a girl not have one night to her self??
I am breastfeeding so it does make it a tad bit harder to go out and enjoy my night but it is still possible. I am back to work now for about 2 weeks and my only day off is Weds...I am tired, is it soo wrong of me to want him to step up and take more initiative and take care of his son more? I love being with my baby, and I don't always need him to watch the baby but it would be nice for him to offer!
It isn't wrong to want to get a mommy break, but at only 7 weeks old, this time is precious! I miss when my little girl was that small, I would go back and cuddle her tiny little self some more, one more nursing session in the wee morning, one more poopy diaper, one more time putting tiny little onsies on her. But she is 4.5 now....and that seems like yesterday :)
You will get a ton of mommy breaks when he gets older, just enjoy this time and invite people over to hold the baby or converse with you. *Hugs*
There is nothing wrong with expecting daddy to take care of that baby. He is responsible for him too. You have every right to vent, and every right to let him know that. You are not a built in nurse maid! You are a mommy that needs some "ME" time. There is nothing wrong with that. It takes a strong person to admit that. You need to let him know that. Because if not it will drive a huge wedge in your relationship!
Congrats on the new baby! I hope you have lots of fun getting to know your little one!
Sorry I don't understand grown men who leave their family most of the weekend especially when they are gone all week. You have way more serious issues than a man who doesn't help.
Honestly I'd have a talk with DH. Maybe get a sitter and make Friday night date nights if you have a close friend or familiy member who you trust with your bitty one? I was on bedrest the majority of my pregnancy, so I fully get where you're coming from. You're feeling better now and you just want to have some you time. Good luck!
I would try asking him to watch them so you can take a bath. I know when I finally broke down and asked my husband he was shocked and told me, "You don't need to ask to do that." All this time I thought he wasn't willing to help but he just thought I didn't want it. :-) I didn't work so I also went out and about a lot. To parks and for walks and the library and anything to get me out of the house. It was so much easier to adjust when I was still getting some fresh air.
She's cheating on him
- Starr0617
on Jul. 28, 2012 at 11:36 PM