We have been having problems with my daughter since June. Mood Swings, weight gain, boobs growing, whiney, began in May. Spotting began in June, took her to the doctor, was told she had a UTI, and that blood was in her urine. So we began a long bout with antibiotics, again early July. Then this past Sunday night the flood gates opened, and it was confirmed that she is indeed having a period. She is having a really hard time with it, embarrassed, sadness, thinking that she is going to die, the whole kit and kaboodle. I have tried reassuring her, she can't sleep, is unhappy and very sad. I know that she will eventually adjust, I am so sad to, I cried all day Monday, when she didn't know. But I am now looking at the bright side, at least it wasn't in school, and we have time to train. Is anyone else going or gone through it? How do I reassure her (we have had the talk), and I have done everything to make this extra special, (because I know it is a walk into adult hood, but she is so young). She is still playing with baby dolls, had no idea even of the birds and bees (except some general information)... It would be nice if there is someone whom has gone through the same thing.
I think maybe she is so early due to the fact of having asthma. Since a very early age, before it was controlled, she was on tons of steroids...
Any help would be so wonderful...
im sure she will adjust to it but for the first few months it may be a little hard for her..just keep doing what your doing...
I'm sure that is incredibly hard on both of you! I would just try to make her as comfortable as possible and make sure she knows u r there for her. Maybe take her out to do something special and girly just you and her. It will get easier.
Good luck hun!
I was early with it because it is normal in my family for it to come early. My mom, my grandma, etc.
Im told for the mood swings there is a vitamin that helps lighten your moods. Im not sure what its called but i could look into it for you?
for reassuring her, just let her know that she is okay and when school does start have her carry some panty liners or pads in a cute little bag, that way nobody knows what they are. And id tell her teachers discreetly that if she takes alittle longer in the bathroom to just give her that time. Its a new thing for her and can be scary.
I got my in school and the nurse had to call my mom. I was so embarrassed so at least she didnt have that happpen.
The only thing i wouldnt do is have the birds and bees talk yet. Just let her know she is okay and that it is normal and that even mom goes through it. Im sure as long as she has you there she'll adjust just time.
Poor thing :( That is a scary thing to happen when you are only 8 years old. And she is probably the only one in her age group that has started. Just make her comfortable, show her the joys of a hot water bottle on her stomach, and give her lots of chocolate. When I had my first period, my mom got me chocolate that was only for me. A hot water bottle just for me. And a box in the bathroom cabinet just for my pads. She also let me stay up really late and watch movies with her since I was "Grown up" now. But I could only do those things while I was on my period. I kinda looked forward to the attention I got after that. Now I can't get through a period without chocolate and a good movie :)
Has she been seen by a specialist? I would have her tested for precocious puberty.... they might be able to stop this process until she's older.
Quoting atlmom2:
Wow. I didn't even talk to my girls until 5th grade. I knew I didn't need to. My oldest didn't start until 8th grade. I feel so bad for her. She can't relate like other girls that start more at 12 and 13. I would't have the sex talk either. It is not needed now.
Quoting Sat.Wed:
12-13? Really? Dang Im screwed I started at 9 1/2-10 and NO it was not percious(sp) puberty EVERYONE in my family started early grandma, mom, aunts etc.... I started developing in 3rd grade so its not new it just depends on family history and pp "stopping" it actually causes MORE harm than good
Quoting atlmom2:
Wow. I didn't even talk to my girls until 5th grade. I knew I didn't need to. My oldest didn't start until 8th grade. I feel so bad for her. She can't relate like other girls that start more at 12 and 13. I would't have the sex talk either. It is not needed now.
im getting the urge again... (a little of a vent also)
- amy5867
on Aug. 1, 2012 at 9:32 AM