This morning my son (25) came over to breakfast and told me a story about last night.
A friend, friend's gf & 3 year old girl had come over to his place. It wasn't the first time. Mandy, the 3 yr old, kept playing with his computer & xbox, even though the gf/mom had told her to "stop that" several times.
Finally, my son had had it. He walked over, picked up Mandy. The mom piped up then asking him what he thought he was doing - he gave her a dirty look, held up his hand and said My house, My rules, My call.
He asked Mandy if she knew she shouldn't be playing with his xbox. She said yes, but wanted to anyways. He told her that it was not allowed at his house, no matter what she wanted. He put her in timeout (yep, mom was having a fit - my son told her to shut up). When the timeout was done, he asked Mandy what she did wrong. She told him. He had her promise not to do it again and to apologise to him. Mandy did and hugged him. Mandy also didn't play with computer or xbox again.
GF/mom was amazed. My son told her to try talking TO Mandy - not at her and to stop her if she was doing something wrong..
HE THANKED ME for showing him what to do. Thats what I did with kids in my home..
ROLMAO!!!
Actually, she objected when he took her away from his xbox. However, Leaving was certainly an option that she had.. and she chose not to take it. She learned something... and so did my son...
Quoting Malley:
Um, if someone put my child in timeout and then told me to shut up when I objected, I would have left immediately with my child.
Quoting Malley:
Um, if someone put my child in timeout and then told me to shut up when I objected, I would have left immediately with my child.
If someone else is having to put your child in time out, then maybe you need to work on your parenting skills instead of getting offended because someone else will do what you won't. Why would you get offended at someone trying to do the right thing? This guy was using tough love, and it obviously worked.
Quoting Leissaintexas:
Quoting Malley:
Um, if someone put my child in timeout and then told me to shut up when I objected, I would have left immediately with my child.If someone else is having to put your child in time out, then maybe you need to work on your parenting skills instead of getting offended because someone else will do what you won't. Why would you get offended at someone trying to do the right thing? This guy was using tough love, and it obviously worked.
That's not tough love on his part, that was rude. Who wouldn't take offense at telling someone telling them to shut up? And I'm not sure why you are directing this at me saying I need to work on my parenting skills. I handle situations with my children, and no, no one else has to correct my children for me. However I do not think he handled it appropriately.
Quoting Malley:
Um, if someone put my child in timeout and then told me to shut up when I objected, I would have left immediately with my child.
Let's change the scenario a bit to see my point. Mom goes to a parent/teacher conference and brings her 3 year old with her who is digging in the supplies and running around the room. Teacher picks up the 3 year and places her in time out. Mom objects and Teacher tells her, "Shut up!" After time out is over, Teacher talks to the 3 year old who promises to never dig in the supplies again.
I can assure you not one person in this thread would think Teacher was right, used tough love, or was teaching Mom a needed lesson in parenting skills. I think everyone would be howling for her to be fired.
Quoting Malley:Let's change the scenario a bit to see my point. Mom goes to a parent/teacher conference and brings her 3 year old with her who is digging in the supplies and running around the room. Teacher picks up the 3 year and places her in time out. Mom objects and Teacher tells her, "Shut up!" After time out is over, Teacher talks to the 3 year old who promises to never dig in the supplies again.
I can assure you not one person in this thread would think Teacher was right, used tough love, or was teaching Mom a needed lesson in parenting skills. I think everyone would be howling for her to be fired.
Quoting MicheleJM:
A teacher is different than a bf is though. I bet the man was angry. Wouldnt YOU be. He has this rule at his house. Mom isnt enforcing it. Shit how many 3 years listen? Three years as the title says arent stupid. She is getting away with breaking a rule and frankly I dont blame the bf for getting mad. He shouldnt have said shut up but mom should have respected his house rules.
Quoting Malley:Let's change the scenario a bit to see my point. Mom goes to a parent/teacher conference and brings her 3 year old with her who is digging in the supplies and running around the room. Teacher picks up the 3 year and places her in time out. Mom objects and Teacher tells her, "Shut up!" After time out is over, Teacher talks to the 3 year old who promises to never dig in the supplies again.
I can assure you not one person in this thread would think Teacher was right, used tough love, or was teaching Mom a needed lesson in parenting skills. I think everyone would be howling for her to be fired.
A question for those who have kids close in age..
When was your due date and when did you give birth?
- KelliStars
on Aug. 3, 2012 at 10:19 AM