Hi Ladies, I am curious what you would do in my situation. Any inspiration would be greatly appreciated!!
My daughter is 6yrs old and she has been spoiled. When she was born i had so many plans for her, and spoiling her was definitely not one of them. She is an only child and the first girl in the in law's family in YEARS, so they have gone hog wild on spoiling her and as a Mom I want to be able to poil her now and then too. I have asked that the in laws not spoil her & make her follow basic rules of ettiquette and manners but they just can't say 'No' to her. Hence, I have a spoiled 'brat'...LOL.
Lately my daughter's behavior has escelated & she runs over her Dad (he interacts with her like a sibling...playing/fighting and tattling to me as she tattles on him for 'being mean' when he gets fed up with her antagonistic antics). I have to step in and lay down the law & she obeys. . . usually.
Last week her behavior was so 'sppoiled brat' that I knew I had to do something. She was using the word 'ass' and getting into things I asked her to stay out of, and coming right back out after being sent to her room. I grounded her; I took away her TV from her bedroom and all of her toys and told her she could earn them back one by one. The last two days she has been amazing, behaving very well!! I allowed her to go to a block party with me in my neighborhood. She won a hula hoop contest, danced, played ping-pong, ate different dessert foods, and had a blast. The next day she started acting out again, telling me "I'm BORED" all day long in spite of me giving her little tasks & fun activities throughout the day. She said "I want to go to Disneyland or the beach!!"
Today she asked for an ice cream, I told her she could have ONE. She ate it then asked for another. I told her 'No' then she went and asked her Dad and he said 'No' then she proceeded to the freezer and got one anyway. He told her to put it back and she giggled at him and continued to open it. I came in the room (I was down the hall doing laundry) and swatted her butt and sent her to her room. After 10 minutes I let her come out & told her "You are grounded again, that was unacceptable"
My husband and I were invited to a birthday party (his step-dad's daughter) and we were going to go but I thought about it. The in laws will be there, at the home of the biggest offender in spoiling my daughter. I told my husband "We can't go. There are two options; we go and I make our daughter sit in a chair next to me & listen to her complain all day or we just don't go". If we go, the biggest offender will have a little pool set up, balloons, tons of cake & ice cream & activities for my daughter and everyone would be (like always) telling me I am being too hard on her, etc., and try to talk me into letting my daughter run wild and play in spite of being grounded. My husband did not respond.
What would you do? My daughter can behave so well until she gets bored, but she's high energy and I could give her activites until I was exhausted and it would not be enough. . .when she gets bored she starts misbehaving. Do I decline all offers to go to parties to stay home and keep her grounded, or do I go & let her off for the day so we can all let off some steam?? Babysitter is not an option (when I am working the biggest offender of spoiling picks her up from daycare...that's all I've got).
How would you handle this?
A. Stay home and be bored while enforcing punishment?
B. Go and let the whole family have fun for a day then go back to grounding?
C. Something else?
Thanks for reading this 'novel' LOL....