Are my daughters Aunts & Grandma's being ridiculous?
For about the last 3 months (since my daughter, boyfriend and I moved here), everyone on his side of the family has been saying that our daughter isn't getting fed enough. I don't know if they think I'm not feeding her, because really no one is around during the day and I don't work so no one see's her eat then... or if it is because I am a smaller framed person. I'm only 5'2 and about 100 pounds. It isn't that I don't eat, I eat like a horse! I just have a fast metabolism just like everyone else in my family. My mom has had 3 children and is about an inch taller and maybe 10 pounds heavier.
But it seems that every time someone is having a bad day they take it out on me for no reason and the "not feeding the baby" thing ALWAYS comes up. It has gotten to the point where his mom, one of his sisters, and his stepmom have all yelled at me. One of those times his sister threaten to hit me several times while I was holding my daughter so we had to leave his stepmoms (where we live right now while buying a house) when his sister doesn't even live there!
This is our first child so of course we are extra protective and yes... even over-protective at times. So I don't like people giving her m&m's or oreo's, but I don't mind cut up fruit, kik cereal or crackers... healthy stuff! I want her to develop healthy eating habits and don't mind the occasional junk snack, I would be lying if I said I have never given her a chocolate chip cookie.
Everytime I go to my daughters check ups the pediatrician tells me she is right where she needs to be. She has always been in the 52-68 percentile. I've even tried giving the pediatricians number to his family so they can call themselves but they never take it. So is this just his family over reacting or mad because maybe they feel like I'm taking him away from them? I'm just tired of feeling like I'm doing something to make them hate me when deep down I know I'm not doing anything wrong at all...
BTW My daughter is almost a year old now if that helps anything and my boyfriend has stood firmly by my side through all of the nonesense!
That is ridiculous. Here is a growth chart percentile calculator from babycenter.com you can show them. Just enter baby's height, weight and head circumference and it give the percentiles. http://www.babycenter.com/baby-child-growth-percentile-calculator
Some how I think that may not help though. It seems they have some crazy idea in their heads and won't change their minds. I'm sorry mama.
When ds was that young he never had any junk food. As long as she's eating and healthy then it doesn't matter what his family says.
His family is friggin nuts, yelling at you, threatening you, while holding her is absolute crazziness. To be honest sounds like even if the DR did tell them she was perfectly fine, they would still believe what they think, they sound like the type that when you tell them the sky is blue, they argue and tell you it is green. Really as long as your Dr say's she is on the right track, then she is, and try not to worry about what those nuts have to think, I know easier said then done, when it is inlaws..
Just say the pedi says she is on track and then ignore them! No need to prove anything!
I've been trying my hardest to ignore them but its so hard to bite my tongue sometimes.
Also, I've tried calling the pediatrician to have her say that my child is healthy but they always walk away when I do it... so I think your right Heidi, it must be something else...
Thanks again everyone! You've all really helped settle my nerves! :)
Question about an 11 year old
- Vannah4816
on Aug. 7, 2012 at 1:40 PM