Please help, I need advice I'm not sure how to feel about this

Is she getting baths yet?  Diaper changes and baths are a good way for daddy to bond with the baby.  The baby sees mommy as their way to get food and they have spent months hearing your heart beat so of course they want to be with you.   You are right in that for a month old, crying indicates a need not manipulation.  How old is the father?  Newborn stage is almost always hard for first parents if they do not have experience with babies.

Look up the four S's. I have a 3 year old and I don't remember all of them, but basically they are ways to calm a crying baby guareenteed to work. Its like swadle, swing, shoosh, and something else. Let him read that or see you do it, and then he can try it. He will feel great once he is also able to calm down the baby. 

Whatever you do, try not to fight back with him when he is upset. Tell him he will get the hang of things, you are just more natural at it because its your second one. Maybe tell him stories of how hard it was for you to figure it out on your own with the first one (so he hears how hard it is for beginners) and laugh about it, and tell him you are so glad he is here to help you with this one.