Okay so we are all used to being judged for our choices as mothers. It gets old...
What are things you are judged for doing "wrong"?
*My son had a pacifier past 12 months (he was 2 1/2)
*My son is 3 and not potty trained.
*My son is in a booster seat not a 5 point harness due to size (fire department/police department approved), but apparently some women think I should have tried much harder to find a seat to force him in. (he's really big for his age).
*I put cereal in my son's bottle at 2 months
*I started feeding him cereal by spoon at 3.5 months
*I started baby food at 4 months
*I gave up on bf because it didn't work. I didn't produce milk.... I've been told that's not possible, I must have been doing it wrong. Well no I wasn't the nurses even said I wasn't producing. Tried everything, including pumping.
*I gave my son juice at 6 months, stopped diluting it at 18 months, stopped limiting it at 2 years.
*My son has decaf soda, decaf tea, and kool-aid on occassion
*My son eats candy on occasion
*My son sleeps with his bedroom light on (like bright as day) and has since he was 2 because it reduces nightmares/night-terrors, and he sleeps better.
FYI my son turns 3 next month. There are a few things that make me a "bad mom" according to those judgemental people out there.
Add in more to EVERYTHING you listed and I've done or still do it to z greater degree!!
So I'm worse if these things count, I think honestly we are just loving moms who know our children won't die from leaving.g the light on at night or having a soda!
I'm sorry. My son would still have his, but I didn't like the derogatory comments he would get from adults. He has a sensory processing disorder so honestly the pacifier would help, because he is very oral. We replaced it with teethers and "chew appropriate toys" just so he doesn't feel bad when around judgemental/insensitive/ignorant people. My son was a really good sport about giving his up. We used the pacifier fairy who gave him gifts like santa.
If yours is just using it at night I don't see how that's any different than a thumb sucker. I've known kids who sucked their thumbs in thier sleep until much older than 4.
Quoting charliebean:
There's a lot people get bashed for on here, but IRL, I get bashed because my DD (4 in October) still uses a pacifier at night.
I agree. I just get so tired of people second guessing how I do things. My husband and I know our son the best, we do what is in his best interest and what is right for him. Every child is different and needs different things.
Quoting macoymom:
Subsitute a thumb for a pacified and that's my 3 yr old dd and NO I won't break her bc I she's my 7th, the inky one to even remotely suck anything past 2 weeks and I loved my thumb when I was young, besides she won't do it in college:-)
Add in more to EVERYTHING you listed and I've done or still do it to z greater degree!!
So I'm worse if these things count, I think honestly we are just loving moms who know our children won't die from leaving.g the light on at night or having a soda!
Me too! Both of those!
Quoting Melanie420:
I don't breast feed and I circumsized my son.....you know, the normal things
Hmmm....
Co-sleeping
breast feeding
being over protective
not letting her have certian foods or letting her have certian foods (been judged for both)
letting her choose who she hugs and not forcing her to
And what is sad, is it is usually family who judges.
How do you deal with a potty mouth?!
- Nicholy10
on Aug. 19, 2012 at 6:35 PM