I'm looking for affirmation that I am right; I'm in a sticky situation at work.
Ok, so the short version of the situation is this:
I have a great job, it is in a stressful environment. It is challenging but rewarding. It pays very well, and has great perks....I have a 6 year old and I try to only let her know about the good things about working outside of the home.....
the sticky situation is that there is a co-worker of mine (female) who is mis-treating me and harassing me. I am not the first co-worker that she has done this to. There are at least 6 others that I know of. Her track record is that she will move onto her next target soon, there has been some new hires and I have been her target for a year now.
I have been approached by management 2 times, in regards to how this is affecting me. Different managers, different approaches. They say they can do nothing unless I speak up.
Coworkers of mine have gone to management to tell them that they themselves are uncomfortable with my treatment by this co-worker, but they themselves are unwilling to come forward against her as well.
I have resources made available to me through my employer to help me deal with this situation. EAP, counseling, etc.
My feeling is this: She is a bad employee and it is Management's responcibility to deal with her, not to put me up to making an official complaint about her. Management has failed to address her behavioural issues and now the situation has snowballed.
Some shifts I feel like Schrodinger's Cat.
Seriously, you need to file a complaint.
Love your SN btw!
So you are wrong. You need to stand up for yourself, even if that means getting management involved to get a resolution.
Official complaints can aid in them terminating her without having to give her unemployment.
They are not going to fire her. They have a harassment policy but they do not enforce it. That is part of the reason that I don't feel supported from Management. That is part of the problem, if they wanted to discipline her they have lots of opportunity to do so, they don't need me to file a complaint in order to discipline her. She is a consistent problem and has been a problem for years before I started there. about 6 years ago someone filed a harassment complaint against her and it didn't go anywhere.....
You need to address her inappropriate behavior with HER each and every time it happens. The VERY FIRST time she was inappropriate towards you you should have told her to stop or you would go to management. I would say that you need to tell her that you will no longer be tolerating her behavior and will go to management and the very next offense. Then GO, be factual, avoid being emotional. Practice what you are going to say to managemen(in your mirror at home) or put it in writing and have a trusted friend proof read it to make sure it is factual and not emotional at all. If she is acting inappropriately it is not only OKAY but a sign of maturity to calmly and factually let the supervisor know what is going on . I know this is a very difficult thing to do but in the long run your management will think more of you if you handle the situation with dignity.
Question about an 11 year old
- SchrodingersCat
on Aug. 24, 2012 at 10:18 PM