These people go from one story to the next. First they were shouting it from the roof top that the baby wasn't his, now because the results said he was, they are claiming they knew all along it was and it was just to show they had doubts to the judge because my daughter gave him reasons to doubt the paternity. Which she never did.
Now they are claiming that my daughter had been and has been withholding the baby from them. They are saying that she never let them know when the baby was born, did not included him in the birth or in the naming of the baby.
Considering she called them to pick up the children to take when her water broke so they knew she was going to have the baby. They never called anyone to see if she delivered. My GD said she wanted her Nana to call to see if her mom had the baby and they refused. When they brought the children back to their home my daughters friend met them at the pick up and asked if they wanted to see the baby and they said no. My daughter has had the baby in her arms at the drop off and pick up but the mil wouldn't even make any eye contact. This family has lost it. The sil said they are scrambling and frantically trying to come up with a new story line before they go to court.
The GF in-law said he was done with his family and the game playing. He said his GS was a spoiled brat as a child and continues as an adult. He told the sil the only reason he and his family took the son back in after refusing him was that he was so convincing with his tales of my daughter cheating, pregnant with another mans child, she was a crazy pill popping, mentally and verbal abuser. He had the sil in tears the story was so convincing. But since she knows my daughter very well she knew it was BS.
She told my daughter to ask them if they want to see the baby and if they refuse its back on them, at least you made the offer. I have never met such twisted minded people in my life.
I apologize, I am not sure how to post a link. I am awful with computers. Long story/short.
They split after she told him she was pregnant with their 4th, he demanded she abort . She refused. He was always out drinking at a Men'sclub and would come home and all hell would break loose. He verbally and mentally abused her in any way he could, he has punched holes in the walls destroyed her phone, crushed her wedding set with pliers, cheated on her, she suspected one but found out there was many more. He started smoking pot and she had enough of the abuse.
Since the split he and his parents have been on a battle to destroy her reputation in our town, they live in the next town over. They put it out there that the child wasn't his because they claimed my daughter cheated on him and all the crap he put her through during the marriage they are claiming that she has done all this to him. They are claiming she is the one that cheated, they said she in on anti psychotic drugs for her mental condition. They have been playing mind games for the past year. Most of my posts deal with the craziness my daughter has dealt with this family. I hope this helps. I understand its confusing and I apologize.
Interesting, in my state its different. You Son in law couldnt even request a paternity test if they are legally married. Infact till a divorce is finalized any child concieved is automatically legally his and he cant fight it. I know its an old law and they have tried to change it several times. I think our state had a problem years ago with married man claiming it wasnt theirs and the courts decided to change that.
Anyhow, I wouldnt worry about the claims of refusal. If they were saying its not their grandchild then the courts will understand not allowing them the child, if you did offer the courts will fully believe they refused. At least in my experience with unmarried couples in my state. I cant tell you how many times in todays world I have seen this type of thing family swears up and down the baby isnt the fathers, then boom it is and they are left freakin out. May I suggest you request they pay all and any court cost since they probably would've done the same had it come back he wasnt the father (not that it had any chance of happening).
As far as her reputation, that again alot depends on the state you live in. Ive so often seen how the parents of boys will just go crazy, they might have been perfectly normal but their "baby" boy tells them this girl got pregnant and he isnt the father and boom they go insane without any proof. I wouldnt worry about the name or delivery, again they questioned paternity so why would they have showed they wanted to be apart of it. I was actually told by one women in a mediation meeting between an unmarried couple, I brought up delivery and naming.... the women (boys mom) claimed they were told the name would be handled by the courts, the courts would decide the last name, and ok the first and middle. Which isn't true, the mother has hte legal right to name a baby whatever they want. I looked at the lawyer for the baby father and he proceeded to throw his hands up look at the women like she was insane and go "I wasnt the first person they spoke to" Afterwards he told me she read way too much on the internet....it was kinda funny on my end. I recently knew somebody who gave the baby her step-fathers last name, there was no father showing up, and her biological parents were no place to be found. Her BM had just left her with her step father. So even though it wasnt her last name. The hospital even said it was fully her choice.
Again things might differ depending on your state, often times once paternity is proven the paternal familys song suddenly changes that everything has always been peachy and fine. That they just "had to make sure, in this kind of world. You know what we mean" and at the same time smile at you. Its sick and twisted and the world we sadly live in.
If he still denies it take his ass to the Maury show and embarrassed his dumbass on TV.
I wouldn't want him to be the life if the child after al that BS but the child has a right to know their father.
In our state a child born within the marriage is legally the father unless he contests it. He has always accused every girl he's ever dated that they cheated on him. When in fact it was him that always cheated.
This is what the mil said before they got the results, "I don't care what the results say, I will NOT have anything to do with that child!!" This coming from a school teacher at a private school. My daughter sent a text letting them know if they would like to see him at any time before they go to court they are more than welcome. No response.
He is a pathological liar, when he talks he's an in your face type of personality. He is also purposely working a part time job (plus an under the table job) as to reduce CS. My daughter was told of this latest stunt. She caught him at the jobs site several times. Which he and his lawyer denied knowing such a business. But now claim this is where he is working PT. He pretty much has bounced (posted in this group) every check he's written. She has copies of 11 checks that didn't clear at first. He has made up for them, sometimes with another bad check . W/O going through the courts he and his lawyer reduced his amount to less than half and even those checks have bounced. He was told he was in contempt and was told to have the CS paid in full by a bank check of what he owed. That didn't happen, the last check was written off his parents checking account for the reduced amount with the mil saying "I don't know what you expect, he's unemployed!" I think they are trying it to show the courts that he can't afford to pay CS.
I am praying that when this goes to court in couple of weeks the judge will make a fair decision, but when comes to his lawyer it seems he has a lot of connections.
When should I potty train her?
- karenax
on Aug. 29, 2012 at 8:11 AM