Okay so to start off I will say that my ex is currently serving prison time for drugs. He and I have an 11 month old daughter together. Before he was incarcerated I was taking the main role in raising his other two children for over three years. Now that he is in jail the mother to those children has decided to come back around which I support fully. If there mother iis getting herself together I am happy they can be with her. My issue is that since she has had them she isn't letting them see my daughter (there sister) at all. So my ex recently asked me if he could sign over his parental rights of those two children to me. Now while I am all for being a part of there life and I love them like my own, I wonder if taking this on is gong to take away from my daughter since I will be paying child support and such. Don't get me wrong I am willing to work two jobs if I have to, I'll make the money somehow. I guess my question is am I taking too much from my daughter by doing this or is it worth it?
How did this guy come to be viewed as "a catch" by 2 different women??? Maybe you 2 ladies should move in together and help each other raise all these kids and leave him in jail.
This is what I was thinking too.
Quoting LexRi0709:
Instead of him signing his rights over, why don't you look into getting visitation with the kids?
She doesn't have to let her children see your daughter. If your ex signs over all of his rights to you he also signs over all of his responsibilities and that means child support. Are you willing to take over paying child support for his other two children? Keep in mind that if they are on welfare now the state can come after you to repay what the taxpayers paid her for support of the children and the state can also charge interest on it.
Obviously he is looking for you to take up his responsibllities rather than having to pay back support when he gets out of jail. But his other daughter's mother does not have let you or your daughter see her children.
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Quoting happinessforyou:How did this guy come to be viewed as "a catch" by 2 different women??? Maybe you 2 ladies should move in together and help each other raise all these kids and leave him in jail.
I know, that Gullible gene is quite abundant in females isn't it?
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And the only way HE could terminate his rights is if she had a husband that wanted to adopt the children... That's to keep deadbeats from just "giving up" their rights to get out of paying child support.
You can not have any legal guardianship or pay child support for HIS kids, just because he wants you to. It just doesn't work that way. Sorry. I know your heart is in the right place, and you want your daughter to know her siblings, but legally you have no ground to stand on. Your best bet would be to try and befriend the mother and offer to babysit and stuff.
That doesn't sound right to me... you shouldn't have to pay child support for him or to have those kids see your daughter. I would just check into some sort of visitation, or try talking to the other mom, otherwise I'd cut my losses.
Quoting moogsmom03:That doesn't sound right to me... you shouldn't have to pay child support for him or to have those kids see your daughter. I would just check into some sort of visitation, or try talking to the other mom, otherwise I'd cut my losses.
If he puts his parental rights into her hands she would have to take over whatever child support he had to pay that is if the court would go for it to being with.
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Question about an 11 year old
- happymomma112
on Sep. 21, 2012 at 2:19 PM