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your stance on child support?

Do u think child support laws should b updated?
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:37 AM
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savingtheworld
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:02 PM
Exactly!! U saying the man doesn't deserve to move on an b re married bc he has kids?


Quoting CoeyG:


Quoting chelsea1401:

My husband has a son from a previous relationship and he sends her 400 a month, which yes I know doesn't pay much for a kid these days... We get him every other weekend ( thats court ordered) she never packs him a bag with clothes, diapers or anything... so even though we send her all that money, were still having to buy him stuff he needs for here..  She also will drop him off on days when she has stuff to do or like when she went into labor we had him for a week and a half...  on another note she lives in gov't housing and on all kinds of welfare - so what she does with the money i dunno but I just dont think its fair... The courts are wanting to up his CS to over 600 if he keeps this 2nd job, It doesn't matter he has 2 other children at home to pay for on top of our bills...  It really pisses me off..

Gee imagine a father taking care of his child while the child's mother is giving brith, what is this world coming to?  Whether he paid child suypport or not you would still have to pay for clothing, diapers, food etc that he used in his father's home.  The money goes to pay for electricity, gas, water, sewer and garbage entertainment for the child, transportation (the child has to get to the doctor/daycare some way) as well as insurance for that transportation if she has a car.  Child support goes to pay for everything that touches that child's life.  You got involved with a guy who came with priorities and yes it is fair, first child comes first.  If you didn't want it to be that way you should not have become involved with him, yet you chose to do so.  It isn't his ex's or her child's fault that you chose to become involved with this guy.  


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savingtheworld
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:04 PM
Haha..yep I know what u mean!


Quoting atlmom2:

Wow, she needs to get off her ass and support herself. I am sick of lazy ass people.


Quoting LuvMyBoy08:

Yes I think they need to be updated. My DH pays 1200 a month for two kids, which is not the bad part. His ex "claims" she can't work because her son won't let her because he's a trouble maker. She has no income coming in but yet can afford a brand new ford f-150, expensive cloths and shoes. But when we see the kids they dress like they are homeless, they never bring any hygiene products ect, so we go buy them cloths and products they need. I know in my heart she's living off of my DH's child support money for herself




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Cpdsptchgrl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:10 PM
Absolutely!!!!! I am currently getting $50 a month because the judge said I am responsible for 100% of my child's care. Why? Because the evil ex is in school full time for land surveying and not working. CS laws say this is how it is to be. Never mind the fact that a degree is NOT a requirement for being a professional land surveyor (his ultimate goal). He's milking the system. Never mind the fact that as a direct result of his actions there is a no contact order against him. So not only is he not expected to help when DD is with me, he gets no time with her so he doesn't even pay for ANYTHING!!! Never mind the fact that he is ordered to cover her insurance and the judge won't hold him in contempt because the law says as a student he gets a free pass on that too. Oh yeah, and in 15 months when the he tries to get the RO modified, which is likely the best he can hope for is supervised visits in the beginning. It's for the transition period. Then when he does get unsupervised visits, the most he can hope for is 4 over nights a month. All of 4...yet even if all he has is 4 I will be required to pay HIM CS. So yeah, the laws need updated and changed IMO.
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Cpdsptchgrl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:13 PM
In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.

Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?




Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment



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Cpdsptchgrl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:17 PM
When you have ER bills, rent, utilities, day care, clothing, food, transportation, school supplies, after school activities such as sports, etc...all of which are at least partially for the children...400 doesn't go far. That said, I get 430 from my oldest's dad and don't bitch. If I get 50 from the youngest's I'm lucky so I have a little perspective that not all have.

Quoting savingtheworld:

400$ a month? That's almost rent or a carpayment or groceries for a month?




Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

$400 is nothing ... Just to point that out. It may seem like a lot when you are the one paying it out, but it isn't that way for the one receiving it.

Quoting chelsea1401:

My husband has a son from a previous relationship and he sends her 400 a month, which yes I know doesn't pay much for a kid these days... We get him every other weekend ( thats court ordered) she never packs him a bag with clothes, diapers or anything... so even though we send her all that money, were still having to buy him stuff he needs for here..  She also will drop him off on days when she has stuff to do or like when she went into labor we had him for a week and a half...  on another note she lives in gov't housing and on all kinds of welfare - so what she does with the money i dunno but I just dont think its fair... The courts are wanting to up his CS to over 600 if he keeps this 2nd job, It doesn't matter he has 2 other children at home to pay for on top of our bills...  It really pisses me off..



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savingtheworld
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:40 PM
Ok? She leaves with the new husband..its not like she has to pay all the bills her self? Dang thats 2000$ a month? An get Tenn care an food stamps?


Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.



Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?






Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment




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Cpdsptchgrl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:48 PM
It is not the legal responsibility of a step parent to provide ANY monetary support for the child. That's the one law I agree with in my state. Oh, and to clarify I am referring to CS only. PA it does get factored in.
Quoting savingtheworld:

Ok? She leaves with the new husband..its not like she has to pay all the bills her self? Dang thats 2000$ a month? An get Tenn care an food stamps?



Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.



Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?









Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment




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savingtheworld
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:58 PM
Where they do that at? I'm married, our money goes together..if any of the children need any thing we get it together..sure court dont c it like that...


Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

It is not the legal responsibility of a step parent to provide ANY monetary support for the child. That's the one law I agree with in my state. Oh, and to clarify I am referring to CS only. PA it does get factored in.
Quoting savingtheworld:

Ok? She leaves with the new husband..its not like she has to pay all the bills her self? Dang thats 2000$ a month? An get Tenn care an food stamps?




Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.



Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?












Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment





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Cpdsptchgrl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:16 PM
Here in CO. They only ask for the parent's income. Not the new spouses.

Quoting savingtheworld:

Where they do that at? I'm married, our money goes together..if any of the children need any thing we get it together..sure court dont c it like that...




Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

It is not the legal responsibility of a step parent to provide ANY monetary support for the child. That's the one law I agree with in my state. Oh, and to clarify I am referring to CS only. PA it does get factored in.
Quoting savingtheworld:

Ok? She leaves with the new husband..its not like she has to pay all the bills her self? Dang thats 2000$ a month? An get Tenn care an food stamps?





Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.



Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?















Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment





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savingtheworld
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:29 PM
Yea an they don't take the fathers cost of living n to consideration either..so she gets to remarry an receive cs


Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

Here in CO. They only ask for the parent's income. Not the new spouses.



Quoting savingtheworld:

Where they do that at? I'm married, our money goes together..if any of the children need any thing we get it together..sure court dont c it like that...






Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

It is not the legal responsibility of a step parent to provide ANY monetary support for the child. That's the one law I agree with in my state. Oh, and to clarify I am referring to CS only. PA it does get factored in.
Quoting savingtheworld:

Ok? She leaves with the new husband..its not like she has to pay all the bills her self? Dang thats 2000$ a month? An get Tenn care an food stamps?






Quoting Cpdsptchgrl:

In my state the new spouses income never comes into play, nor should it IMO.



Quoting savingtheworld:

He did..just went to court last month..he gets them 94 days out of the year? She makes 1200 a month an receives cs 800$ an welfare an tencare..an married?


















Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

If he wants more time? Fight for it!, it shouldn't matter what happened in the marriage, who caused or asked for the divorce.. and as for her getting more child support "when she feels like it" it doesn't work that way.

Quoting savingtheworld:

My husbands ex-wife left the marriage for another man.. an was pregnant..so I'm sure a big smack in the face for my husband, is it fair all he gets is every other weekend an a huge amount of child support? He didn't ask for a divorce, she did..she's able to get more child support when she feels like it.4 times in 2 yrs? Seems more like punishment






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