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My sons teacher thinks she can run our entire lives, even holding him from his bus

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So my son is in 2nd grade and is special needs speech (that is all, otherwise he is totally normal). His school is solely Speech, Sight, hearing, and base phsycially impairment. 

My eldest daughter is a senior in high school, my other daughter is in 5th grade. So I have dealt with good teachers, bad teachers, mean teachers, nice teachers, rude teachers, loving supportive teachers, harsh, easy, young, old, male, female, a combination of the previous terms, all of it. But for the first time in 15 years of  dealing with schools I dont know what to do with this crazy women.

First off she sends home homework nightly, thats fine. However its as minimum of 2 hours a night for a 2nd grader who gets home at 4:45. She sent home a message that said homework should take at least 2 hours, if your student if finishing it sooner please let me know so I can add somemore busy work. By the end of the year I plan on having all students doing 3 hours a night. My senior in high school has barely that much work EVERY night. Last weekend DS had 500 math problems to do. Im all for homework, but in limited and reasonable amounts. He gets home at 4:45, 5:30 is dinner with the family. Weds. and Thursdays he has a speech group (suggested by the school) from 6:30-7:30 in his school gym. With his homework there is no time for anything, my MIL was in town last week and really didnt get to visit with DS. 

This women also is a health nut on a scary level, she sent home a list of items she feels are OK for snack no big deal till you realize she openly states at the end of the letter that all items are avalible at Whole Foods and a local speciality market. A cup of yogurt she finds good enough is $3.00. She feels no child should have gluten (this isn't a problem as far as allergies for a member of DSs class this year) just her personal feelings and she wont allow anything she thinks might have it. On one hand, Im fine with school being healthy, but this women throws a fit my sons mini carrots weren't in those single snack bags so she could verify they were orangic and the correct brand. In our district snack is considered required in all classes (meaning teachers have to have a snack time). 

DSs school also has start of the year parent teacher meetings, like conferences. And all she kept saying was as a parent she felt, and as a parent she felt all parents... then come to find out all she has is a 2 year old. She seems to think all people should only feel, think, and act like her.

Then she got upset when I and 3 other mothers couldnt come to a schedule meeting during the school day. This was to set up family schedules, ok fine. That she then questions our kids about to see if we are following them as she stated. So basically this women wants to make sure my brother doesnt stop by out of the blue or something. She is very much butting into our lives.

Then today I got a call at 4 "10 from my sons school secratary. She asked if my son was supposed to be staying after school. I said no, she then told me that she might be over crossing her bounds but my son and another boy were sitting in class in chairs in corners. WHAT! She put the principal on, who seemed not surprised but upset. She put me on hold, went and got my son and his best friend. Why were they held... because they did poorly today on their math test. I never got a call nothing, this crazy teacher just didnt put my son on the bus and held him for a detention....DETENTION! For not doing well on a math test... 

So I just picked him up and had a long talk with the principal. Because of school policy they cannot change his teacher, however she is working to have another teacher brought in to teach DSs class. This is the second time in a week this has happend and she has been having complaints all year for all 11 kids parents. She really seemed she was doing what she could and was just pretty much locked down with district rules. This teacher is in her 4th school in 11 years. 3rd in the last 3 years..... I could've killed this women, Im tired of her running my sons class like its a prison. In all my years Ive never dealt with a teacher like this.

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 5:33 PM
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Bieg9093
by Bronze Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 8:49 PM

 For about a hundred dollars, you can get a LAWYER to write a letter to the teacher (cc principal, superintendent and school board members.)  In this letter it can be stated that:

*she must permit (list 5-10) snacks for your child as approved by yourself & your child's pediatrician.

*you will no longer be permitting your child to work on homework for longer than a half hour each night (citing the policy stated in the district's handbook or guidelines found in state curriculum) AND that no consequences are to be imposed upon your child for "unfinished assignments."

*your child will no longer be serving detentions in school without notification from THE PRINCIPAL.  In the absence of such notification, you will consider your child to have been kidnapped and will immediately notify police.  (No...I'm not kidding about that.)

Throw in whatever other demands you have and what legal steps you intend to take in the event of non-compliance.  Add in some language about civil rights.  A hundred bucks is a pretty penny, but I figure it's worth it to make the heinous bitch cry! 

Just for clarity's sake...I'm not a lawyer.  I'm a teacher.

 

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