Especially ex spouses? I read so much about women hating their ex husband(and his new gf or wife). They also hate MIL but absolutely love their own mother. They complain about CS and the amount paid or not paid. We never paid CS. Ifdd needed something we bought it. It didn't matter which one of us paid for it. But I should mention I always worked, I never stayed at home. DD's step-mom also works but this is her first marriage and has 1 son with dd's father. All 4 of us work to take care of her and ourselves. If your DH pays too much(in your opinion) and can't pay the bills at home you go to work to help with the bills. I get along so well with my ex! I just don't understand it.