sooo...my BFF is 18 and pregant. I very much dislike her boyfriend but that's not my concern. We've known each other our whole lives, since diapers. Well, i talked to her yesterday; her man is going to Corpus Christi to work on the oil rigs. He's from CC. He went there a 1 1/2 months ago for a week,came back and she found out he was talking to some girl there. Then she finds out 2 weeks later that shes preggers....well she talked it over with him, explained that since they're having a baby now, he needs to get his priorities in line; he's 20, a tattoo artist and a football player. He says he wants to go to CC to work and save money plus oil rigs pay well. She decided she's going to break up with him for the time he's gone, he leaves thursday and won't be back until february. She said its because she doesn't need the added stress of wondering what he's doing because she's pregnant and doesn't want to hurt the baby. I told her i was glad she was thinking about the baby but i talked to my husband about it last night and he says its a copout. Breaking up with him won't lessen her stress. It will heighten it because she just gave him permission to sleep with other women in a sense. I explained to her today my husbands logic and its making her rethink her decision. I don't know what else to tell her. He wants to work and save money. He's giving up his dream of football (he just passed tryouts) to work and support her and their baby. I think they should stay together because i did the same thing when my husband had to leave for 4 months and i regretted it sooo much. I've never seen her so happy. she loves him and thats clear but i feel like shes going to hurt sooo much when he leaves. Advice?
If he's single, he could date and I hate to say it but he may find someone else.
I agree with your Dh. She's going to be more worried.
If he really loves her and wants to be with her, he won't be with anyone else while he's there.
I agree with your dh. He's going to use this as an excuse to be able to sleep with anyone else. I also don't see why not being together would help lessen her pain. She's still going to wonder if he's sleeping with someone while he's away.
I think she should move on. If he loved her, he wouldn't be with anyone else.
It would make sense but he says, "I'm not going to be with anyone while I'm there. You can break up with me but in my mind, I've got my girl pregnant with my baby at home waiting on me. My mind is on the money, not the hoes." So idk if she should leave him. he is a good guy but he's only 20 and still has some growing to do.
Quoting xoxRachelxox:
If he really loves her and wants to be with her, he won't be with anyone else while he's there.
I agree with your dh. He's going to use this as an excuse to be able to sleep with anyone else. I also don't see why not being together would help lessen her pain. She's still going to wonder if he's sleeping with someone while he's away.
I think she should move on. If he loved her, he wouldn't be with anyone else.
She's locked in a lease with her mom, plus her mom and her share a vehicle and split the payments and she has her job here. Mind you, this is an unplanned pregnancy. I know she loves him but idk how he feels.
Quoting snowangel1979:
Why doesn't she move there to be close to him. If they love each other and are starting a family, that's going backwards.
If he's single, he could date and I hate to say it but he may find someone else.
I agree with your Dh. She's going to be more worried.
Quoting rgba:
Perhaps she doesn't have faith he will commit, and wants to get used to being single. I think she is making the right choice for now.
She doesn't have faith. She's caught him talking to 5 different girls. Soooo...I can understand her feelings. I just think either way, she's running from the pain. If he cheats, he cheats, at least she'll know. if he doesn't then her trust will grow.
Quoting Abigail0210:
Can she go with him?
no, she has a steady job, locked in a lease and shares a car payment with her mom.
I think your friend is far too young to be in any type of relationship with any guy and far too immature to be a parent. Hopefully someone with common sense will at least be able to talk her into giving the baby up for adtopton since she wants to keep it. If she doesn't that baby is going to suffer horribly. Obviously she is self centered and selfish.
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Can she move to be with him?
Growth spurt?
- ARMYWife624
on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:42 PM