My 3 year old has been potty trained for several months now and has always been a little bit leary of using public toilets. She was previously more receptive to using public bathrooms with me rather than her dad, but has recently started all out refusing to use public toilets. When we do try because she seems to need to go potty very urgently, she begins screaming and yelling. The first time she did it to me I tried to hold her gently to help her calm down, but she never did. I gave up and we began walking around the store. About 3 minutes later she announced she had to go potty and we walked back and went potty without issue. Lately though, she refuses and if I try to help her by picking her she immediately breaks into tears and if I persist because I think she is on the verge of an accident she loses it screaming and going rigid. Now whenever she needs to go potty while we are out, she demands to go home. I want her to be comfortable and don't want this to be a major trauma, but going home is highly unconducive to being able to accomplish anything throughout the day. I try to plan things out so we are not out for extended periods of time, but I can't always rearrange my day to make this work (appointments etc.) For now avoiding the issue has been my method of handling the situation, but its necessarily the solution.
I've been just trying to go with her into bathrooms talking about the sizes (she is very focused on the size of toilets) and try to let her flush them and be comfortable without being unsanitary. I'm all out of ideas on how to help her and help make this less of a stressor for all of us.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
on Oct. 10, 2012 at 8:53 PM