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If you go to church or used to go to church

Posted by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 11:36 PM
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I was raised in the Christian faith. I veered away for a while, quit going to church, but then after I had my dd, I started going back bc I wanted to raise her in the faith. Well, she loves church, and has great friends there. I, on the other hand, don't always enjoy going to church. I have very few close friends, despite the fact that I have gone to this church for several years. Plus, I don't get anything out of it. Even when I try to read the Bible at home, I don't get much out of it. Some of my beliefs don't mesh with other Christians. Sometimes I have doubts about all of it, whether God even exists, whether heaven and hell exists, what being a Christian means,etc. So now I don't know whether to just take my dd to church and then not go myself, keep going where I am and try to find a way to fit in, or try something different.

Has anyone ever battled with doubts about Christianity? Do you believe in Christianity but have turned away from organized religion? I would like to hear what kept you in church or what has turned you away from church. I just need to hear some opinions about it all.

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Coreyhoots
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 9:06 AM
Try finding another church that you ate more comfortable in. If you want your dd in church and she likes it children learn by example. If you find your church home and get involved you might find the answers your looking for. How can anyone not look into a newborn babys face and not think God exists or tragedy that strikes for no reason and not see Saten. That is just what I believe. I myself have had doubts before as well. I found it easier to study certain subjects rather than just reading my bible z
AleaKat
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 9:09 AM
It's been my experience that labels divide us. I believe in a higher power but organized religion is not for me.
Not going into detail about my feelings but I just don't agree with alot of church discrimination.
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EsmeVincent
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 9:13 AM
this...at the moment I am looking for a new one

Quoting victoriaherring:

Sounds like you need to find a new church.
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janessa27
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:26 AM
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 My parents have been the best and strongest example of a Christian marriage (34 years Saturday). Although I was brought up in a few different churches- I did get out of it for awhile until the current church I am going to. It is absolutely wonderful and I feel so comfortable there. DH and I got married in 2011 (after being together for 19 years) and we have been going to church together every since. It has made a huge difference in our relationship and family. I would say that you should look into a different church also- good luck:)

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savingtheworld
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:40 AM
Haha..I was like that to... Always a member n a church..the bible was hard to read, an under stand..try a contemporary bible like the message...it explains it better to understand..keep in mind your going to church to learn not a gathering to make friends..but sounds like to me u have lost faith..never hurts to pray to find it...
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BrennaLyons
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:44 AM

I don't believe in organized religion in general. I've found that it usually ends up being twisted by people to fit their own aims, and often some of those twisting it are the pastors or priests or whatever in charge of a congregation.

I don't belong to an organized congregation anymore and I'm much happier without it. Do I still believe in Christianity? Sort of, though many Christians do not appreciate how I celebrate it. I do still believe in Jesus and his teachings, but I've taken the tack of 5th Century Celtic Christians ala Pelagius. His teachings, before he was branded a heritic by Augustine, who was a favorite of the pope at that time, was that people should read teachings of ALL faiths and all philosophies and what you needed to work on would be clear to you by what resonates across all the readings. He believed in universal truths that many religions embraced and that God was capable of speaking to you in everything you read.

MaddieBsMommy
by Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:47 AM

we just started going to church, for the same reason you do, we want our kids to be raised with some religion....that being said, we have tried many different churches, and have never really felt "welcome"  as new members etc, so we just kept trying till we found a "home".....as for my mother, I'm just throwing this out cause she was in the same situation as far as not really agreeing with alot of the Baptist beliefs etc....she has been doing Bible study with some Jehovah's Witnesses and has really gotten alot out of what they have to say, she's not converting I don't think, but it has helped her with understanding a little more....

skylarkdancer
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:48 AM
Dh and I found that small groups through a church was something we felt more comfortable with than going to the church itself. It was more intimate and easier to get.to know ppl. We are Christian and were both raised in baptist churches. We love the old hymns but also the contemporary stuff too.
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ZanderandBella
by Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:51 AM

I think maybe you should look at a different church. I veered away. I could not go to the church that I did before. I found a non-denominational church that is more my age when it comes to music and things like that. I love it.

Rhiannon1980
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 3:07 PM
I am not christan but IMO you don't have to go to church to be christan. As long as you believe and live as a christan should there is no need to go to church.
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