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Any Good Men Out There?

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It seems like most of the Posts that have to do with our hubbies or boyfriends are full of negativity. How they are not supportive and so on. Or whether or not we should leave them.

How about those of us who's hubbies are supportive and we want to stay. I just wanted to hear something positive. I have a great husband ( of course he's had some bumps in the road) but he loves us and takes care of us.

So, ladies, tell let's talk about the great daddies and husbands we have.

by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 5:35 PM
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amanda81919
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:30 PM
Mine. Is . Awesome! I'm spoiled. Always suportive, pushing me to be better. I, on the other hand took him for granted
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sleepymommy87
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:35 PM

I love mine. He's super supportive of me breastfeeding and bedsharing, never complains that he works and I'm a SAHM, puts mine and dd's needs first, and really treats us like princesses. He works so hard so I can stay home with dd even though he hates his job lol. I love him, he's my best friend and I can't imagine a more loving husband and father. He is truly a gem, I am a lucky woman!!!

A.J.s_mommy
by Bronze Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:38 PM
Mine is pretty good! We have issues here and there, but nothing major. He's a good father to our children, and good to me.
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CoeyG
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:34 PM


Quoting yperez0209:

Coey G, I would like to ask you something. What is it about that 20-25 yr mark that so many couples split. My parents divorced around there 25th yr. and my sister had serious issues when she was married 20 yrs. I wonder what it is? Maybe we get so wrapped up in our children that we don't put enough into our relationships? IDK, but I do know I've been with my husband 14 yrs and it scares me sometimes that something will go wrong. We try to have date night once a week, and we still laugh together and enjoy eachother, but I've always noticed that pattern around the 20 yr mark. Maybe I'm just sensitve to that because my parents split up at that time. What do you think?

Quoting CoeyG:

Yes there are good men out there, the only problem is that it takes time to get to know a person before jumping into bed with them and making babies.  Although me and my ex are no longer together we knew each other as friends for three months before we actually "dated" on and off as friends and then it took another four months before we became exclusive and another two months before we had sex, Albeit our marriage ended but after 20 years  and after 25 years of being together as a couple.  And even though our marriage ended we have always been able to communicate, we are cordial, no jealousies, we have both moved on and he has even remarried, I have no problems with his new wife, she has no problems with me.  He didn't complain about having to pay child support and I wasn't gripping constantly about the amount of child support I was getting, I knew it was enough to support our daughter and that is what it was for, not to support me I was working and didn't need to be supported financially.  

In short we were grown ups about our dating/relationship/marriage and divorce and didn't act like hihg schoolers.  See if you're going to choose to play grown up games, you'd better be a grown up.


Well with my ex and I we both wanted different things.  He had just entered the corperate world after being in the Military for 21 years and I was winding down from that world after being in it for 25 years.  He wanted to make more money and I wanted to sit back and enjoy what we had.  Top that with the began getting emotionally abusive and I wasn't going to put up with that and had discussed seperation with a lawyer, hoping my ex would find a girlfriend because I wanted nothing to do with him...when he did finally get a girlfriend, he stupidly involved our daughter in the "cheating" had he left her out of it all we'd probably still be married  but living seperate lives.  But he got pissed that I found out and threatened to get violent so that was the end of the marriage.  I've been through an abusive relationship before and wasn't about to go through it again.  

mna_823
by Bronze Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:37 PM
My hubby is so amazing. I would be lost without him. We complement each other very well. He is a great provider and very supportive and an amazing father.
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Jenni_Lynne71
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 8:02 AM
My SO is the best thing that has ever happenend to me! Took me 20yrs to find him and it happenend when I least expected it and wasn't looking but here he is!! :-). Over 3yrs together and going strong!
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yperez0209
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:30 PM

Thank you for sharing.

Even though you're a strong lady, I'm sorry you had to go through all that, divorce is not something pleasant to live through. And bad move on his part for involving your daughter. My parents involved me in there mess and it was terrible.

I do believe that there's something that goes on around that time of the relationship maybe it's multiple factors and maybe it's different for every couple. I hope that we are able to love each other and grow old together. After all that's the plan when we say "I do". 

I do believe in defending the marrige and in doing everything possible to make it work, ( not saying that you didn't )  I have to commend you for being able to communicate with him and not hate eachother. That's a very mature way of handling it and I don't know if I would be able to do the same. I say this because it's easy for me to say that I would do the same, but I have not lived through your experience so I don't know.  

 

Quoting CoeyG:


Quoting yperez0209:

Coey G, I would like to ask you something. What is it about that 20-25 yr mark that so many couples split. My parents divorced around there 25th yr. and my sister had serious issues when she was married 20 yrs. I wonder what it is? Maybe we get so wrapped up in our children that we don't put enough into our relationships? IDK, but I do know I've been with my husband 14 yrs and it scares me sometimes that something will go wrong. We try to have date night once a week, and we still laugh together and enjoy eachother, but I've always noticed that pattern around the 20 yr mark. Maybe I'm just sensitve to that because my parents split up at that time. What do you think?

Quoting CoeyG:

Yes there are good men out there, the only problem is that it takes time to get to know a person before jumping into bed with them and making babies.  Although me and my ex are no longer together we knew each other as friends for three months before we actually "dated" on and off as friends and then it took another four months before we became exclusive and another two months before we had sex, Albeit our marriage ended but after 20 years  and after 25 years of being together as a couple.  And even though our marriage ended we have always been able to communicate, we are cordial, no jealousies, we have both moved on and he has even remarried, I have no problems with his new wife, she has no problems with me.  He didn't complain about having to pay child support and I wasn't gripping constantly about the amount of child support I was getting, I knew it was enough to support our daughter and that is what it was for, not to support me I was working and didn't need to be supported financially.  

In short we were grown ups about our dating/relationship/marriage and divorce and didn't act like hihg schoolers.  See if you're going to choose to play grown up games, you'd better be a grown up.

 

Well with my ex and I we both wanted different things.  He had just entered the corperate world after being in the Military for 21 years and I was winding down from that world after being in it for 25 years.  He wanted to make more money and I wanted to sit back and enjoy what we had.  Top that with the began getting emotionally abusive and I wasn't going to put up with that and had discussed seperation with a lawyer, hoping my ex would find a girlfriend because I wanted nothing to do with him...when he did finally get a girlfriend, he stupidly involved our daughter in the "cheating" had he left her out of it all we'd probably still be married  but living seperate lives.  But he got pissed that I found out and threatened to get violent so that was the end of the marriage.  I've been through an abusive relationship before and wasn't about to go through it again.  


ChancesMommy07
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:33 PM

My husband isn't perfect but he's perfect for me. We've been together since junior high, 15 years, married for nine. He works hard for us and he is a great hands on father . There's never been a time that he hasn't been there for me.

Ivoryskyangel
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:41 PM

I can't imagine having anyone else. He is not my husband yet, but that doesn't change how we treat eachother and feel about eachother. I can talk to him about anything, and he accepts everything I throw at him. I just wish we had more time as a family :(

Aurora-Dove
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:42 PM

My SO is typically very supportive and loving, and he is ALWAYS an amazing dad! He has his moments, but for the most part he is wonderful!

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