My baby boy is 6 weeks old and we have been visiting family with him more often lately. When we visit my mom it is a lot easier for me to tell my mom what id prefer her to do and not to do with him. My mom is also a lot more chill with the baby and sits on the couch with him because she knows i feel more comfortable that way since hes still so new. Everytime we visit my mother in law and great grandma i am so stressed out. My husbands mom will walk all over the house with him out of my sight and invite a bunch of friends over to see him (and doesnt let me know).. she wont even tell me when he goes poop because she doesnt want me to take him away. ( i know this bc once i finally had him she said oh yeah i think he pooped through his diaper) How could u forget to tell me somthing like that! My husbands grandma is 90 years old and is also so aggressive. I am breastfeeding and when im in the process she will huddle over me and be like can i have him yet, is he done yet, let me have him! She will also try to throw him over her shoulder and try to burp him, i always have to watch him because he swings his head around. I have told her once before to please not burp him like that because it makes me uncomfortable and she continues to do it. How can i approach them in a nice way to not do some of the things that bother me? Everytime i see them (which sometimes is for hours) they wont let me hold him. i know i know its my baby, but i dont want to be rude! Has anyone had an aggressive mother in law or family members? i dont want to be stressed out everytime were there..my husband even gets stressed out listening to his mom and grandma arguing over who gets to old him and for how long..