How far is too far for every other weekend visitation?
My 4 yr old DD's father moved 3 hours away. currently she is in preK Mon, Tue and Thur. so every other weekend she is picked up by 11am on friday by her dy 5pm by her dad. and is home by 5pm on sunday.
It's a 3 hour trip both ways, w/out stopping for lunch, potty etc....so I have 2 things that are going to change soon (w/in a year) ~ in Sept she will start kindergarten, fu l time m-f. which means she will be in school until 3pm ~ so he wouldnt be able to pick her up by 11 anymore on fridays.....AND he is thinking abut moving AGAIN (this will be move #5, each time getting further away, first he was a few miles down the road, 2nd he was an half hour away, 3rd an hour and now 3 hours....and if he moves in w/ his GF it will be 4 hours away ~ so getting picked up at 3 she wouldnt get to his house until dinner then bed and only have a day and half before having to hmake the trek back....the weekend she goes there, she has fun w/ him (from what I can tell) but also notice she is crabby and its hard for her to sleep the first night or two ~and he bahvior is not so good, it;s like an awful 2 days of whining and getting back into our routine. I think that all the driving/riding etc...is too much for her b/c she is still young.
I don't want to take away his visitation, but dont want my dd stressed either.....any suggestions? any other moms "dealing" with something like this?