I am a mom to 3 daughters, 15, 14 and 11. Their father and I have been divorced for 2 years. We share 50/50 custody and only live 20 miles from each other. I remarried last year, while their father has had 5 girlfriends, 4 of which have lived with him. Last week my girls went to school, everything seemed perfectly normal, after school I got a text from the oldest saying she was staying with her dad...the middle one also said she was staying with their dad. I never saw any of this coming so I didn't realize they meant "live" with him. He proceeded to tell me that they hate my house (I live in the country), they are bored....they can't find anything (??)....I blow up at them all the time (COMPLETELY untrue, in fact the oldest and I had just gone on a shopping trip the day before and seemd to have a good time). I asked if we could meet and discuss this like the adults they thoiught they were...including their step-dad and their dad's current live in girlfriend. We met at a restaurant, they all came in and except for the youngest who wants to live with me, all had really defensive attitudes. I spoke quietly, expressed that this was not what I wanted but I was willing to compromise, maybe give them some more time with their dad. They just sat there looking at him, they wouldn't even look at me. Finally the middle one blurted out that she wanted nothing to do with me, that she couldn't stand being around me. Needless to say I was crushed! Their dad and his GF sat there looking and smirking at each other, at one point she actually had her hand over her mouth laughing. Now a little history....during these several GF's the girls always loved them at first but there always came a point where they were calling me wanting to live with me, and I would tell them that this is something you need to talk to your dad about and work it out... I feel that he has been brainwashing them against me. I know he has trash talked me for the last 2 years. I married a co-worker of mine and he has told the girls that is the reason I left, which I never had the heart to tell them I actually left becasue their dad had been having a 2 year long affair with my best friend. I'm just lost at this point. It's been 2 weeks, the youngest told her dad she wanted to stay with me 3 weeks out of the month which he tried to fight but finaly gave in. I text the other 2 at least twice a week and tell them I love them and miss them, the oldest responds. I also go to their games...I'm trying not to push them. The middle one has told me she wished I would get into an accident and die. I just can't remember being so hateful to my own mother. They've been lieing to their dad, saying my husband and I are fighting all the time and there is too much drama...we never fight and when they are at my house they all get along with him. He is crushed as well, we feel we have been attacked. I know that their dad is pressuring them...does anyone have any advice or has anyone ever been thru anything like this?? Thanks in advance!