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Posted by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:11 PM
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Did you tell or will tell your child or children about sex. What will you tell them?

Im not sure what age I will tell them but I want to go all out. Pictures of stds, video of a birth, what rape is an let them know its better to masturbate then have sex (until they find the one of course) and it is ok to say no no matter what others might say. Like I said Im not sure how I will do it or when but I do want them informed about EVERYTHING. I was left in the dark an wish I would have known everything I know now.

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frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:28 PM

I start with the basics early on and as she gets older i will get into the more specifics or darker side around  10 or 11.  I learned most of what i know through a book mom gave me aroound 2nd or 3rd grade and the various health class segments for the more graphic things.


**eta**  DD is 6 now so she is learning body parts and why they are different for boys and girls.  She still says girls have 2 butts.

sreichelt26
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:28 PM
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I kind of view it as an ongoing discussion with more information being added as they get older. I'm going to add stuff that all of people don't - how wonderful it is with someone they love, how sometimes it's just physical and sometimes it's a lot more, and how to please their partner whether it's through discussion or providing information or even talking to someone else. There's a lot to be gained from experience, but I think kids are done a disservice when they're sent in blind and all they know is rumors or maybe what they learned from sneaking porn.

atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:29 PM
I never talked rape ot masterbating ever. Mine are 18 and 21. They learn or know anyway. I have girls.
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CoeyG
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:00 PM
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I started whe my daughter was two and asked questions about the pictures in my "Joy of Birth" book.  I of course kept it at age level.  

robyann
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:41 PM
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 It is a process. It starts when they are very young, and you add new info as they mature. It's not just something you sit down and tell it all in one sitting, lol, build on the previous info over time.

typingMom to 6~MawMaw to 9 & counting!

PinkParadox
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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This. My 7 year old knows the basics...body parts, how babies are made etc. My 5 year old knows some of the basics, but really just isn't interested yet...so I'll wait until she becomes a bit more inquisitive about it. The more you talk about it, the more natural and comfortable they will be coming to you.

Quoting robyann:

 It is a process. It starts when they are very young, and you add new info as they mature. It's not just something you sit down and tell it all in one sitting, lol, build on the previous info over time.

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caro100
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:47 PM

I started when my kids asked, which was... about 3 years old with my oldest.  He asked how his brother got inside Mommy.  I explained that Daddy had half of brother and I had the other half of brother and Dad and I got together and put his brother together.   This led a few days later to Well who had the leg half.  After I finished laughing, I ehad to get a little more in depth.  By the time they had sex ed in school they pretty much had it all.

marchantmom06
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:49 PM
You can't just lay it all out at one time. That is so wrong. You have to give age appropriate answers over a period of time. I always start when they ask. Usually around 8. But I've never shown pictures of STDs or told them to masturbate.
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Buggy979
by Danette on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:50 PM
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We have been talking about sex since they were born.. our rule is we sit for dinner all of about 15 min. And dinner is open discussion.. my girls are 21,15 & 12 and they have asked question, talked about and we get gross.. its a great way to learn...
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hippiechik3
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:56 PM

I have a DD5 in march and a DS3 an they both have seen each other naked an know the difference they just have no idea what those things are for except to potty. Im not planning on putting it all out there at once cuz they wouldnt understand. I just wanna be ready for the questions when I get asked. My dd hasnt asked about babies or anything yet so she just knows she is a girl an her brother is a boy. oh my gosh one time dd walked in an saw dh getting out of the shower, ran out of the bathroom yelling yuck dads peepee is soooo big lol I laughed so hard, yeah mine are still innocent in the hole sex thing.

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