Do any of your MIL's favor one of your children over the other? Do they let the least favorite know? If not, how do they keep them from knowing?
My MIL has helped DH and I more than I can even type out right now. She has been there for us financially and emotionally and I love her. With that said, I don't know what I am going to do. MIL has NEVER, not even once, asked to keep DS3. She wants SD7 all of the time, but she only wants to take her and not DS. I don't understand!
DH was 17 when he had SD. So MIL had a big role in SD's life and I know that is why they are so bonded. I think that is great! What I don't understand is why she refuses to make an effort to bond with DS. Why? She hasn't even spent enough time with him to know if she likes him or not. DH's family has had mostly girls, so maybe MIL just doesn't know how to deal with a little boy? I don't know. DS can be mean sometimes, but he is a 3 year old little boy and I have seen much worse! He just tests his boundaries.
What am I supposed to do? I would be lying if I pretended that I wasn't highly offended everytime she asks to get SD only. It pisses me off beyond belief! She can like whoever she wants, but I am sure as shit not going to let my DS know... and continuously sending SD alone to MIL's, is going to make it pretty freaking obvious! I have talked to DH about all of this and he completely agrees. He even talked to MIL about it once. She asked to see both kids once after their talk, and not again.
Do you normally send one kid to a family member and not the other? Please help! I really need some advice! Am I just being to sensitive about this? MIL did take both kids to the movies this week (for Thanksgiving), but I swear I am not exagerating when I say that she has NEVER, not once, asked to spend time with DS alone.
We only have SD every other weekend and on holiday's and we have DS every day. There is no excuse for MIL to not have a relationship with DS!