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Paying Your Kids for Good Grades = Epic Parent Fail - Do you pay your kids for good grades?

Posted by on Nov. 22, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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Paying Your Kids for Good Grades = Epic Parent Fail

Posted by Andrew Kardon on November 21, 2012 

Scrabble letters spelling "MONEY"I was a good student growing up. I always got good grades so it was never really an issue. Same with my wife. And now (we're hoping), it's the same with our kids. At least so far.

My wife and I try to instill the importance of education in our kids. We try to show them that they need to go to school and learn as much as they can. How else are they ever going to become Video Game Makers when they're older?

We certainly encourage our kids to do well in school and praise them for working hard. But we've never rewarded them for a specific grade on their report card. I find it sad, actually, that some parents will pay their kids for every single A that they get on their report card. This is just all kinds of ridiculous to me.

I pay enough school taxes as it is already. I'm paying the teachers' salaries, but now I gotta pay the students to learn too? That just seems idiotic to me and a complete betrayal of the entire education system.

I'm all for encouragement and positive reinforcement. Your kid gets an A, that's fantastic. Let them know how proud you are. Heck, even if your kid gets a C, if they normally get Ds and worked their butt off to get a C, they deserve some praise. It's all about putting in the effort and doing your best. In the end, that's the ultimate take away from school.

You're also setting a horrific example by paying kids per letter grade. So what if they don't really care about the money at the moment? Maybe they just had a birthday and got a ton of dough. So now they don't bother putting in any effort and they get Ds. Oh, well. Too bad. Kids have a horrible sense of money to begin with, so you're not really helping at all.

The knowledge kids get and the self-confidence they nurture is the true reward of going to school. Yes you can do something nice or fun for your kids if they do something extremely well. Go out to dinner. See a movie. But don't make it a habit that's predicated on the exact letter grade he or she gets on a report card.

As for grading the parents, well if they're paying their kids to learn, I'd have to give them a big fat F!

Do you pay your kids for good grades?

by on Nov. 22, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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lucky2Beeme
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 10:13 AM

No we praise our children for hard workand good grades. We might have a special dinner or dessert but never cash.

kirita323
by Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 10:52 AM

Interesting article! Although I completely disagree, money can be used wisely or it can be used poorly. My family was pretty tight with 5 kids and not so much extra "dough" so I think the method instilled the importance of education in me. I think it's a good grandparent thing to do, which is how it started in my family but my grandparents passed away when we were pretty young. Just curious, do you agree or disagree with giving an allowance for chores done? Or do you follow the family responsibility route. 

snowangel1979
by Silver Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:01 AM
It depends on the child.
When I was in school it worked for me in middle and Jr high.
I received $1 for a C $ 10 for B and $50 for A. I had to pay $20 for every D-E. I went from a D student to an A-B student in a few weeks.

I don't pay because my son does not get grades. LOL He's homeschooled and I use a mastery approach.
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atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:03 AM
Hell no.
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kirita323
by Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:19 AM

Damn, when I got paid for grades, it was $5 an A, $1 a B and $.50 a C. And we were expected to get all As and Bs

robyann
by on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:26 AM

 No I've never paid my kids for grades. For one reason, at times we were not in a position to pay them for grades. At different times when my kids were growing up money was tight. Aside from that reason, I really don't think it's sending the right message to kids. I do encourage my kids to get good grades, and I praise them when they do. They know it is expected.

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Thelmama
by Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:28 AM
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No, we don't. We expect good grades. It is their responsibility. Although their grandparents give them money.  We do tell them good job, high fives etc. We are hoping them to instill in them the desire to get good grades because they want it for themselves. We help them when they need it, encourage them etc.

Bmat
by Barb on Nov. 22, 2012 at 4:54 PM

No, we never did.  At most they got a smile of approval.

Nikkijr
by Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 5:26 PM
I couldn't afford to pay my kids for their grades! Lol I have three. Nor would I want to. I only care that my kids pass and graduate. If they get on the honor roll great! It not but still graduate great! The graduation party is their reward, and knowing they completeted it is reward enough I think.
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Mom2Just1
by Mom2boys on Nov. 22, 2012 at 5:48 PM
We don't pay. We encourage and reward in other ways. Our son will be able to get a frappucino at Starbucks, for example.
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