When my ex and I split up our daughter was 7 years old. She was in the 2nd grade. We did the custody arrangement ourselves. We also did the property split ourselves. We didn't own our house so all we split was stuff like furniture, housewares etc. We agreed to 1 week with me, one week with dad. It has worked out great! No CS is paid by either side. However, when I lived in SC he could have gotten it because she stayed with him and visited me. Many people(especially women) look at me like I'm crazy when we are talking about kids, custody etc. They can't believe that I "let him have all that time!" What?!?! He IS her father and they are very close!! Sometimes when I have to travel for work and it is my week dd will stay here with her step-dad(my DH) and some women have asked me "aren't you scared he will molest her?" What?!?! Why are so many people on my case?