When my ex and I split up our daughter was 7 years old. She was in the 2nd grade. We did the custody arrangement ourselves. We also did the property split ourselves. We didn't own our house so all we split was stuff like furniture, housewares etc. We agreed to 1 week with me, one week with dad. It has worked out great! No CS is paid by either side. However, when I lived in SC he could have gotten it because she stayed with him and visited me. Many people(especially women) look at me like I'm crazy when we are talking about kids, custody etc. They can't believe that I "let him have all that time!" What?!?! He IS her father and they are very close!! Sometimes when I have to travel for work and it is my week dd will stay here with her step-dad(my DH) and some women have asked me "aren't you scared he will molest her?" What?!?! Why are so many people on my case?
I can't Stan self righteous notches who don't *let* their children have plenty if time with their fathers! Stop punishing the child because YOU couldn't get along with the dad!
I am happy to hear you have good relationships with your ex and your present. In today's world unfortunately so many things go through our minds and we worry about the worse things that can happen. You know your own relationships better than anyone else and if you feel your child is safe with both of them then bravo to these men. Do not let strangers tell you what you should and should not do. In your heart you know where danger lies so If you can let your daughter be with her dad for 1 week then this is good. Your daughter is having a good time and loves her dad so what is the problem?
I think that it's great that you have the kind of relationship with your ex that works best for your child. A lot of people cannot work past their own issues to do what is best for the kid/s in a non-idea situation.
There was a girl in DD's class whose parents split time 1 week on/off. The parents realized that they liked each other enough to not live together and wanted the best for their kids. When mom got really homesick for her native country - the whole family moved, even though it wasn't dad's home country. They are all doing well, and still splitting the time 50-50.
Because it is unconventional. But do what works for you and everyone else can shove it.
WHAT?! are these people crazy? if you are comfortable with your daughter spending 50% of the time with her dad, and you two can get along so well, then why ruin it by fighting in court?! and im going to assume that if you were concerned about your husband molesting your daughter, that you prbably would not have married him!! i think its wonderful that you and your ex have such a great relationship and can do what is in your daughters best interest. it's rare these days to find that.
It is great that you have a great custody arrangement, I only hope that if my boyfriend and I split we could have such an amicable agreement with our son.
I think people just hear so many horror stories of the step dad or boyfriend molesting the daughter that they just think that way.
TBH I did kind of wonder that when my best friend met her now DH. I had to scope him out and get to know him and now I don't think he will do anything to her kids. I'd rip his balls off myself if he did.
Because those people are nuts !!!! You are her mother and you judgement is far more relativent then their is. The fact is that I would love if my ex would take our son one week on, one week off, it would make my son very happy but we have a different custody arrangement in place. As for molesting your DD, one would assume if you married him it's because you love and TRUST this man. If you told me that, I would say you are one lucky woman, having an ex so dedicated to his child and a new husband that loves both your child and you and also takes responsibilities as a husband and step father.
Too young for "the talk"????
When was your due date and when did you give birth?
- SexyTeacher
on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:26 AM