pacifier at 9?

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Your husband needs to aks bio mom why he is using a pacifier at his age.  The therapist needs to know about it as well.  If he needs one at his mother's then something isn't right at his mother's home.

Just a question.. 9 being .. like 9 years old? 

 I had a friend who kept her paci and security blanket til she was like 12. It seriously messed up her teeth and she had to have major orthadontic work. I gave DS a paci very reluctantly but he was an early teether and was teething before he could grasp teething rings and such. He gave his up on his own around 7 months, he got a cold and stuffy nose. Refused to take it because he couldn't breathe with it, we never gave it back after that.

Quoting ICURNRebecca:

Just a question.. 9 being .. like 9 years old? 

Quoting Aurora-Dove:

 I had a friend who kept her paci and security blanket til she was like 12. It seriously messed up her teeth and she had to have major orthadontic work. I gave DS a paci very reluctantly but he was an early teether and was teething before he could grasp teething rings and such. He gave his up on his own around 7 months, he got a cold and stuffy nose. Refused to take it because he couldn't breathe with it, we never gave it back after that.

I still have my teddy from when I was small and my daughter still has her stuffed dog from when she was a baby.  My bear is no 56 years old...my daughter's dog is almost 27 years old.  I intend to have mine with me when I'm cremated

Quoting CoeyG:

Quoting Aurora-Dove:

 I had a friend who kept her paci and security blanket til she was like 12. It seriously messed up her teeth and she had to have major orthadontic work. I gave DS a paci very reluctantly but he was an early teether and was teething before he could grasp teething rings and such. He gave his up on his own around 7 months, he got a cold and stuffy nose. Refused to take it because he couldn't breathe with it, we never gave it back after that.

I still have my teddy from when I was small and my daughter still has her stuffed dog from when she was a baby.  My bear is no 56 years old...my daughter's dog is almost 27 years old.  I intend to have mine with me when I'm cremated