For the past week I have been stressing over whether to send my in-laws something for Christmas (they live in another state). DH says I shouldn't be worrying about it but I still do. I'm finding it difficult for several reasons, 1. because anytime we send something it never gets used- so I don't even know what to send!, 2. because rarely do we even get calls from them, 3. they never call on holidays or send the kids even a birthday card on their birthdays, 4. chances are likely that if we don't call them on christmas, we won't hear from them. It's just odd to me. When we confront them on it- they say "oh we don't want to call and bother you, we know you're busy" - so? at least we know you care. Then, when we do go to visit, they act completely different and even have told us on numerous occasions how much they want us to move there (that's a whole other story). So I'm struggling. Do I send something or not? I guess the only reason is because I was told they are sending something for the kids. I hate having to stress over something so ridiculous. Any advice?