The father of my twins gave up his rights when they were just a year old. I wasn't married so I had to sign a paper that stated I would never go for government assistance. Well the kids are now 11 and were interested in meeting him. They started by corresponding via Facebook and then met. I allowed him to come to my house because that is what the children are most comfortable with. We have done this several times and every time he is in my home I typically stay in the other room because it is so uncomfortable. He sits there with such a smug look on his face and is occasionally rude to me. The kids have witnessed this and have made mention of it. They have also told me that they don't really like him and they think he is a dork. I said to just give it time to get to know him. Well this past weekend he came over and I brought up the topic of him contributing financially. He said that he couldn't afford it. He said that he knew it was all about money and that is all I cared about. I must note that he lives at home with his mom and dad. Anyway he called me an f'n slut via text along with quite a few other nasty things. So my question is do I continue to allow him to see the kids, since it really is up to me as he gave up his rights? He has been very disrespectful to me and not sure what to do.
Please give me your thoughts. I am so stressed out. I want to do what's right for my kids but this guy left 11 years ago. Never looked back. He isn't even the one that initiated contact. Now he wants all the privileges of being a dad without any of the responsibility.