If BD stayed out of his kids life, do you tend to keep it that way if no hope?
My ex(BD) has not made an effort to see out son going on 11 months now and I feel he probably won't ever. Our mutual friend told me that he's seeing a counselor and is supposedly telling him he shouldn't see his son. I think that's bullshit, what kind of counselor tells a parent to keep away from their child? Just because I moved on with someone new and have a new child doesn't send the message to him that he's not allowed to continue being a father to his son. I have not ever told him he couldn't see his son, just that if he wants to see his son, he has to make it a habit. Every other weekend for example which was how it was before. What stopped that is a long story, it had to do with his asshole parents and sister he moved in with. I did what I could and it shouldn't be me making an effort to have my ds see his father it should be BD making the effort since he was the one who left and chose Playstation 3 over his child. My son stopped asking for his dad after me giving him the same answer "He's at poppop and nana's house," which was true because that's all I knew. Our mutual friend told me he's temporary living with him now. Guess how far away he lives....6 minutes. Anyway I feel sadness for my son only because he's only had a dad for 7 years and if this continues, his dad being non existant, then pretty much I can say is he has no dad correct? Given if my son grows up not remembering his dad. And there will never be a replacement.