Now back history my son has been diagnosed with feeding behavioral issues an sleep issues. And we have been on a strict feeding and high calorie diet. He has a half hr at breakfast, lunch and dinner and 15mins for snck.
And latley my son has been giving his lunch and snacks to dinner and saying he eats it. And i know how much is on his and his brothers plates and when i check on them my oldest says he ate it but i look on his brothers plate and his brother somehow got more food.
Why would he be doing this
Most likely he either is trying to avoid punishment, or he is not wanting to disappoint you
not trying to be a bitch here, but i have to ask... why aren't you at the table with your sons? he wouldn't be able to pass the food over if you were sitting right there.
i dont understand feeding behavioral issues (never heard of it) and im thinking my ss might have that! but if it's such an issue, i'd sit with him and make sure he's getting what he needs. also, punish for the lying. take away his favorite thing. for my ss, when we catch him lying, he loses tv.
Hello, mama. What I think you are going to have to do is actually sit there - eat with him or read a book to him or something - until he is finished. There is no other way to enforce this because he will continue to do this. If you are there with him and letting him know how important his eating time/finishing food is, he may begin to understand and follow thru on his own some time son. But it seems he is looking for some attention and maybe even missing you at the table. Hope this is helpful. Best wishes for you all.
Why do you think your child has a feeding behavioral issue? Is he under weight? does he have physical health concerns?
Being a fussy/picky eater is very COMON among preschool children, and their resistence to eating is the one area in their life that they can exert control. Someone else tells them when to wake up, when to go to sleep, when to play, when to quit playing... someone else is always frustrating them! To eat or not to eat is the only area where they can be the "boss". And face it, no matter how much you tell your child to eat, you really cannot shove it in his mouth and make him swallow.
Whether he has eating disorders or not, you cannot force him to eat. He is giving food to his brother, because you have placed him in an impossible situation. You want him to eat, and he does not want to eat, so he has to find some way to get rid of the food. By telling you (lying) that he ate it, you may be glad or relieved, so he was getting the positive reinforcement he needed. Now that you've confronted him, he knows that you are again angry with him... but he still cannot do that thing you want him to do - which is eat.
The best way to handle preschool eating problems is to ignore them. Unless your child is grossly underweight and his health is in trouble, ignore his EATING - but never ignore HIM. Make mealtimes pleasant and fun. Serve pretty, colorful, tasty meals. Use good dishes sometimes. Use colorful children's dishes sometimes. Have picnics. Play fun music during dinner.
Talk to your husband and children during meals. Keep conversations light and fun. Do not talk about how much anyone is or is not eating. You can talk about how the food tastes, or how pretty it looks, or how you like it with ketchup (yuck!)... but make meal times fun times.
Over time, your child will eat when he is hungry. As long as you focus on making him eat, you are only setting him up for a lifetime of food battles.
I took him to a gi dr and she diagnosed him with feeding behavioral and sleep. She also tested him for allergies, and his bmi is so low for his age it concerned her.
Quoting LoreleiSieja:Why do you think your child has a feeding behavioral issue? Is he under weight? does he have physical health concerns?
Being a fussy/picky eater is very COMON among preschool children, and their resistence to eating is the one area in their life that they can exert control. Someone else tells them when to wake up, when to go to sleep, when to play, when to quit playing... someone else is always frustrating them! To eat or not to eat is the only area where they can be the "boss". And face it, no matter how much you tell your child to eat, you really cannot shove it in his mouth and make him swallow.
Whether he has eating disorders or not, you cannot force him to eat. He is giving food to his brother, because you have placed him in an impossible situation. You want him to eat, and he does not want to eat, so he has to find some way to get rid of the food. By telling you (lying) that he ate it, you may be glad or relieved, so he was getting the positive reinforcement he needed. Now that you've confronted him, he knows that you are again angry with him... but he still cannot do that thing you want him to do - which is eat.
The best way to handle preschool eating problems is to ignore them. Unless your child is grossly underweight and his health is in trouble, ignore his EATING - but never ignore HIM. Make mealtimes pleasant and fun. Serve pretty, colorful, tasty meals. Use good dishes sometimes. Use colorful children's dishes sometimes. Have picnics. Play fun music during dinner.
Talk to your husband and children during meals. Keep conversations light and fun. Do not talk about how much anyone is or is not eating. You can talk about how the food tastes, or how pretty it looks, or how you like it with ketchup (yuck!)... but make meal times fun times.
Over time, your child will eat when he is hungry. As long as you focus on making him eat, you are only setting him up for a lifetime of food battles.
I took him to a gi dr and she diagnosed him with feeding behavioral and sleep. She also tested him for allergies, and his bmi is so low for his age it concerned her.
Quoting LoreleiSieja:Why do you think your child has a feeding behavioral issue? Is he under weight? does he have physical health concerns?
Being a fussy/picky eater is very COMON among preschool children, and their resistence to eating is the one area in their life that they can exert control. Someone else tells them when to wake up, when to go to sleep, when to play, when to quit playing... someone else is always frustrating them! To eat or not to eat is the only area where they can be the "boss". And face it, no matter how much you tell your child to eat, you really cannot shove it in his mouth and make him swallow.
Whether he has eating disorders or not, you cannot force him to eat. He is giving food to his brother, because you have placed him in an impossible situation. You want him to eat, and he does not want to eat, so he has to find some way to get rid of the food. By telling you (lying) that he ate it, you may be glad or relieved, so he was getting the positive reinforcement he needed. Now that you've confronted him, he knows that you are again angry with him... but he still cannot do that thing you want him to do - which is eat.
The best way to handle preschool eating problems is to ignore them. Unless your child is grossly underweight and his health is in trouble, ignore his EATING - but never ignore HIM. Make mealtimes pleasant and fun. Serve pretty, colorful, tasty meals. Use good dishes sometimes. Use colorful children's dishes sometimes. Have picnics. Play fun music during dinner.
Talk to your husband and children during meals. Keep conversations light and fun. Do not talk about how much anyone is or is not eating. You can talk about how the food tastes, or how pretty it looks, or how you like it with ketchup (yuck!)... but make meal times fun times.
Over time, your child will eat when he is hungry. As long as you focus on making him eat, you are only setting him up for a lifetime of food battles.
Because he isn't hungry and is being forced to eat. My son is small, he was a preemie. He currently weighs 30lbs on the dot and his is 5 years old. The nutritionist tried to tell us the same things about him needing a time limit, strict feeding, blah, blah. DS eats when he is hungry, he is not starving, and he is not behind cognitively, hes just on the small side. Unless he is suffering medically for being small I cant justify causing him a life time of eating issues by forcing food.
She's cheating on him
- HLmom89
on Dec. 29, 2012 at 3:12 PM