Not sure if this is the right thing or not
Little back story - my husband and I have been seperated for a lil over a year now. Just weeks after seperating I found out I was pregnant with our 2nd child. I filed for C/CS Nov. 2011 all that was finalized in Nov. 2012 (outcome was joint custody with me having full physical). The day before I gave birth to my second, he and I talked about a few things and the one thing that he and I actually agreed upon was that we would have combined parties, so that the boys would not have 2 birthdays because we both just do not see the point in having two birthday parties when your birthday is just once a year.
About a week back my ex's mom posted a picture (of the boys, herself, her mom and her 2 nieces) both her and her mom were holding steamware drinking glasses with an orange colored content with straws. I called my ex to ask him about it and he said "I think they were mango smoothies" I asked if there was alcohol in them and he said no. I asked because our custody order states that he and no one in the presense of the children shall consume or make alcohol known - I had this placed in there because he has a drinking problem as well as him mom. Well he called his mom and she posted some more things the same day like "FYI - Don't ASSume or ask a third party! Ask me directly!!" her friend commented saying "Do we need to start kick some butt girl" his mom liked the comment. She also had statues of "Don't you worry I have you taken care of, watch your back honey", "Check your brakes before you leave". Well when I was able to get to a printer either she blocked me from seeing them or she deleted them.
So now, today I went onto to Facebook and the first thing in my newsfeed was that picture. She commented "BTW - Those are mango smoothies". She makes little digs at me and only unblocks me from certain post that are "digging" towards myself or my boys. I text my ex saying "If your mom keep posting the stuff she does on facebook and making snarky hidden comments towards stuff we've talked about (mainly the picture that I called you about) I'm going to have to ask she not come to [our oldests] birthday party, I know we agreed to have 1 party for the kids, but honestly I'm not going to have someone in my house who's going to be so blantly rude." .... "In her one status "FYI - Don't ASSume..." her one friend commented "Do we need to start kick some butt girl" and then for your mom to like it. I don't care her friend commented on it, but I certaintely do not appreciate it her liking it. I don't post things like that about her nor have I about her." ... " I don't want to be rude about the party because that's what you & I came to an agreement too and I vow to follow that, however I don't want people in my house who are going to act two faced to me. I'm not saying any of this to piss you off, and I'm sorry if it has, I'd just rather let you know now." SOOO our oldest birthday is not until March, but I'd figure would give him a heads up. Before I sent him the text above, I told him I would talk to him about somethings tonight when he drops the boys off, he came back to me saying "either talk now or don't bring it up at all" which is why I sent the texts. I would have rather had the conversation in person to be honest.
Am I wrong? If I am please be nice about it.