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Did I blow it on this one? How to respond?

Posted by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:19 PM
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Backstory: I have a profile on a dating website & this guy clicked the "yes" button on the "meet me" feature. I checked him out & sent him a message. He replied that he was in FL (I'min OH) on vacation but would be home Sunday. Said I could text him if I wanted. My "rule" is to not give my number out to just anyone & everyone & he claimed to have understood.

So I just messaged him asking how his trip back was & asked what he was in school for. This was his reply:

yes, IT.....its a program designed to lead from entry level certifications into more advanced as I get further into the program...depending on my interest level as things advance... thanks for asking. I'm glad you had a fun time with your church. I'm getting the sense you're wanting more of a friendship...which is ok..just letting you know I'm not much of a "lets just chat on the computer" kinda guy... no offense...if thats your level of comfort...I wish you the best...but I am not wanting a pen pal....true friendship in person...sure.... possible dating things down the road... thats fine too but in person.../ or even phone then meet in person...but I dont want a purely computer thing....sorry. 

So now I feel like I blew my chance with him! I am NOT looking for just friends. I am looking for possible dating. But I don't feel like I should give my number out to everyone I talk to! I've had a friend do that & she ended up getting crazy calls & texts at all times of the day & night from one guy who wouldn't leave her alone!

HELP!

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:19 PM
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emilysmom8
by Dawn on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:41 PM

 Message him back and explain that to him. Maybe he will understand

jeepninja
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:43 PM

I would make sure he knew that you wanted more. Tell him that you are confused by his message and am not sure what you said/did that made him think you only were interested in being friends. GL

PerfectVirgo
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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I would not be emailing him back. If he can't exchange 3 emails without meeting you, or getting your number, something's wrong with him.
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connie45
by Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:53 PM
Let him go.
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-PB
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:15 PM

 

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

I would not be emailing him back. If he can't exchange 3 emails without meeting you, or getting your number, something's wrong with him.

 

strictmomhere
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:19 PM
Tell him u want to meet download text free and text him there
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Bleacheddecay
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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It is important to have strong boundaries and keep them. If that doesn't work for someone else, they are not the right person for you.

LilliesValley
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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Uhhh, this wasn't the one. No chance blown, he's an IT guy but doesn't like to chat on the computer? Weird? Consider it a bullet dodged.

swthrt737
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 10:11 AM

I understand your pnt and i think getting to know him more is better,btw,why not him giving you his?
rstuart66
by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 12:43 PM

If he's not willing to communicate via text he does not seem that interested.  I'd keep looking for someone else.


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