Thinking it's time for Miss to get more chores *Vent*Eta reply 15
During summer vacation my kids are required to help by doing more chores, but while they are in school it's just the basics. We only ask that they take care of their own hygiene, pick up after themselves be responsible for their own stuff (which can be a lot of things) and clean their room(s). It's more important to us that they do well in school and enjoy their extracurriculars, but the things we ask for are non-negotiable.
Apparently my oldest dd thinks I am asking too much of her. She has been giving me a hard time about doing anything lately so I asked her about it last night. She said, "I feel like I'm always working and never get to do anything fun. Why can't you just do it for me?" The only thing I said was that I'm sorry she feels that way and that me doing it for her was not going to happen. So I'm thinking she is going to learn what work is. Her 7 yr. old brother does more without me asking or reminding him and hardly ever gives me a hard time. Maybe it's a gender thing or and age thing? Idk She kind of surprised me. I guess I shouldn't be since she's 9 going on 'I know it all'.
Just out of curiosity, what kinds of chores do your kids have?
Quoting LucyHarper:My kids have about half an hour of chores each day, and that isn't including their personal responsibilities like cleaning up their things and cleaning their rooms. They go to school, are in lots of extra curriculars, do their chores, and still manage to have plenty of time to hang out with their friends and be kids. As long as shes not dragging her feet about it, theres no reason why cleaning up her own things should interfere with her having fun everyday. I would give her more chores and show her what work really is. Tell her you are not her maid, you will not clean up her messes that she made.
We assign their chores based on what they are able to do, we mix them up every few weeks so everyone has experiance with everything. We try to assign mainly chores that they enjoy doing but throw in a couple that they don't like so much, so they still learn how to do those chores. This weeks chores are-
5 year old son- Wipe down the kitchen table before meals, set the table for dinner, put away the clean dinner dishes three nights, take the bathroom garbage bag and put it in the garbage, seperate and fold a load of laundry on Saturday and Sunday (laundry days), and feed the dogs (with supervision).
10 year old brother (I'm the guardian of my siblings)- Take out the garbage once a week, sweep the older boys room three times a week, hang a load of laundry (we hang dry our laundry) and take down dry laundry and put it in the basket, brush the dogs once a week, bring in the mail, and dry the dinner dishes three times a week.
13 year old sister- Do a load of laundry, take out the garbage once a week, feed and brush the cat and always make sure she has water(her cat, so her responsibility), fold a load of laundry, mop the kitchen floor once a week, clean the bathroom sink once a week, dust the living room once a week, and wash the dinner dishes three nights a week.
17 year old brother- Do a load of laundry, take out the trash once a week, sweep the living room once a week, do the dishes once a week, and clean the shower once a week. He has a little less because he also has a part time job.
The baby doesn't have any chores. They also help out with random projects, like shoveling the driveway, weeding the gardens in the summer, older kids will watch the little kids for a little while, etc., and they are responsible for their personal messes.
Quoting tihone77:Just out of curiosity, what kinds of chores do your kids have?
Quoting LucyHarper:My kids have about half an hour of chores each day, and that isn't including their personal responsibilities like cleaning up their things and cleaning their rooms. They go to school, are in lots of extra curriculars, do their chores, and still manage to have plenty of time to hang out with their friends and be kids. As long as shes not dragging her feet about it, theres no reason why cleaning up her own things should interfere with her having fun everyday. I would give her more chores and show her what work really is. Tell her you are not her maid, you will not clean up her messes that she made.
Hmm...I hadn't thought of bringing in the mail or emptying the small garbage cans. The rest sounds about right for what they do during summer, minus the pet chores (we don't have any). Thank you for the reply and the ideas!
Quoting LucyHarper:We assign their chores based on what they are able to do, we mix them up every few weeks so everyone has experience with everything. We try to assign mainly chores that they enjoy doing but throw in a couple that they don't like so much, so they still learn how to do those chores. This weeks chores are-
5 year old son- Wipe down the kitchen table before meals, set the table for dinner, put away the clean dinner dishes three nights, take the bathroom garbage bag and put it in the garbage, separate and fold a load of laundry on Saturday and Sunday (laundry days), and feed the dogs (with supervision).
10 year old brother (I'm the guardian of my siblings)- Take out the garbage once a week, sweep the older boys room three times a week, hang a load of laundry (we hang dry our laundry) and take down dry laundry and put it in the basket, brush the dogs once a week, bring in the mail, and dry the dinner dishes three times a week.
13 year old sister- Do a load of laundry, take out the garbage once a week, feed and brush the cat and always make sure she has water(her cat, so her responsibility), fold a load of laundry, mop the kitchen floor once a week, clean the bathroom sink once a week, dust the living room once a week, and wash the dinner dishes three nights a week.
17 year old brother- Do a load of laundry, take out the trash once a week, sweep the living room once a week, do the dishes once a week, and clean the shower once a week. He has a little less because he also has a part time job.
The baby doesn't have any chores. They also help out with random projects, like shoveling the driveway, weeding the gardens in the summer, older kids will watch the little kids for a little while, etc., and they are responsible for their personal messes.
Quoting tihone77:Just out of curiosity, what kinds of chores do your kids have?
Quoting LucyHarper:My kids have about half an hour of chores each day, and that isn't including their personal responsibilities like cleaning up their things and cleaning their rooms. They go to school, are in lots of extra curriculars, do their chores, and still manage to have plenty of time to hang out with their friends and be kids. As long as shes not dragging her feet about it, there's no reason why cleaning up her own things should interfere with her having fun everyday. I would give her more chores and show her what work really is. Tell her you are not her maid, you will not clean up her messes that she made.
Okay, I was thinking that I would start giving her more chores on a regular basis. I will add chores if she gives me a hard time instead of taking a privilege away. If she doesn't have time for a privilege then it's on her. How would you separate the chores? What's expected Vs.the add on chores? Here's a list of what I think she could handle. Any other suggestions?
Clean your room-already expected
Swiffer on the weekends
Dry dishes
Put dishes away
Sort laundry
Clean up the clutter in the bathroom
Clean the bathroom toilet, sink and mirror
Clean the bathroom and kitchen floors-with assistance as needed
Water the plants
Dust the living room
Vaccum the basement
Wipe crumbs off all flat surfaces in the kitchen (stove, counters, dishwasher, table and chairs)
Sweep kitchen floor
Set the table
Empty the 3 small garbage cans once a week
Bring in the mail
Weed during the summer months
bump for eta. Sorry it wouldn't let me update in the op.
I have only one while it would be easier to pull teeth from alligator my son already does those listed, and is learning how to do wash.
Quoting tihone77:Okay, I was thinking that I would start giving her more chores on a regular basis. I will add chores if she gives me a hard time instead of taking a privilege away. If she doesn't have time for a privilege then it's on her. How would you separate the chores? What's expected Vs.the add on chores? Here's a list of what I think she could handle. Any other suggestions?
Clean your room-already expected
Swiffer on the weekends
Dry dishes
Put dishes away
Sort laundry
Clean up the clutter in the bathroom
Clean the bathroom toilet, sink and mirror
Clean the bathroom and kitchen floors-with assistance as needed
Water the plants
Dust the living room
Vaccum the basement
Wipe crumbs off all flat surfaces in the kitchen (stove, counters, dishwasher, table and chairs)
Sweep kitchen floor
Set the table
Empty the 3 small garbage cans once a week
Bring in the mail
Weed during the summer months
I don't think it's a boy/girl thing, but a 9 year old thing. My DS9 is the same way. The only thing that has worked was to limit the amount of time he has on the computer. He can earn an extra hour a day for extra work, but if he doesn't do what he is supposed to do like homework, clean room, pick up after himself and all without giving us any grief for it, he gets his privleges revoked until he straightens up. So far, it's working pretty well.
everyone's reply is so familiar...my girls are 12 and 13 and whenever they hear "clean up" it's like we are asking them for the hardest thing in the world.........it is unbelievable that they make it a huge thing and they ge me so annoyed that I just tell them to forget it and I do it myself.........I want them to learn how to take care of the house so when they are older they wont be lazy and lost...but I feel so bad to ask them to do a chore because when I was young i had few to none.......I try to make it a fun thing with music and everyone including myself helping out and that lasts about 10 min before the fighting starts...ugh i just dont know how to handle them sometimes.......
A question for those who have kids close in age..
When was your due date and when did you give birth?
- tihone77
on Jan. 4, 2013 at 10:23 AM