My SS is 5 years old and his is wetting the bed!!! Honestly, I'm not sure why he is still doing it but its awful. I have to wash his sheets every other day and his room always smells like urine. I am beyond frustrating. I have a 3 year old DD as well and she doesn't pee her bed. I'm not sure what is wrong. I have tried not giving him drinks before bed and making him go to the bathroom before bed. I have grounded him and now the other kids make fun of him. He doesn't seem to care at all. I don't want to put him in diapers because that is just plain embarrassing for a 5 year old who has been potty trained for years now. I just don't understand and I'm lost. Please help. Does anyone else deal with this? Is there something wrong with him? Is punishment the right thing to do?
Do not punish him.
Bedwetting is a complex problem, and some kids may not stop wetting the bed until they are in their teens. Get him pull-ups, not diapers, and have him wear them every night. Keep a rubber sheet on the mattress. Show him how to strip his bed and remake it. Be POSITIVE. Be supportive. But let him take some of the responsibility for the clean up.
By several sets of sheets, so you don't have to do the laundry every day. Change the sheets daily, if he wets daily, to control the urine stink. You can check out good will stores for more sheet sets if money is tight.
For a child who was sleeping through the night without wetting, and then started it, it is probably stress involved. Something in his life is scaring him. Is he being bullied at school? How long has he been your step-son? Is there trauma involved with a divorce? Is there someone who has access to him who could be abusing him? See a medical doctor first, and then see a child psychologist, especially one with experience with bed-wetting problems.
Try to show your step-son unconditional love. He needs to feel secure. Until his basic needs are met, he will not be able to move forward.
Lorelei
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A big deal??? Am I wrong or if this place for asking for advice on a subject I don't know about? That is what I am doing here...asking for advice, how is that making is a big deal???
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
Sigh..,, please don't punish him. My 9dd still wets. Most of the time it's because the hormone that stops urine production at night is weak or Deficient. This hormone is usually fully functioning by 2-3 but sometimes it's not. You can ask to see a Pediatric urologist who Specializes in bed wetting for some tips but really until the hormone develops the wetting will continue. Invest in some pull ups and stop making a big deal about it
This is exactly what I do. And yes my DH got him when he was almost 2, he didn't even knew he had a son. DCYF contacted him and made him get a DNA test because the mom abused and neglected him. My DH now has full custody and she has no rights.We don't know exactly what happened before we got him.
Quoting LoreleiSieja:Do not punish him.
Bedwetting is a complex problem, and some kids may not stop wetting the bed until they are in their teens. Get him pull-ups, not diapers, and have him wear them every night. Keep a rubber sheet on the mattress. Show him how to strip his bed and remake it. Be POSITIVE. Be supportive. But let him take some of the responsibility for the clean up.
By several sets of sheets, so you don't have to do the laundry every day. Change the sheets daily, if he wets daily, to control the urine stink. You can check out good will stores for more sheet sets if money is tight.
For a child who was sleeping through the night without wetting, and then started it, it is probably stress involved. Something in his life is scaring him. Is he being bullied at school? How long has he been your step-son? Is there trauma involved with a divorce? Is there someone who has access to him who could be abusing him? See a medical doctor first, and then see a child psychologist, especially one with experience with bed-wetting problems.
Try to show your step-son unconditional love. He needs to feel secure. Until his basic needs are met, he will not be able to move forward.
Lorelei
Quoting mamisjourney:A big deal??? Am I wrong or if this place for asking for advice on a subject I don't know about? That is what I am doing here...asking for advice, how is that making is a big deal???
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
Sigh..,, please don't punish him. My 9dd still wets. Most of the time it's because the hormone that stops urine production at night is weak or Deficient. This hormone is usually fully functioning by 2-3 but sometimes it's not. You can ask to see a Pediatric urologist who Specializes in bed wetting for some tips but really until the hormone develops the wetting will continue. Invest in some pull ups and stop making a big deal about it
Good luck!
I just wanted to let you know that your not alone. My daughter is 8 and still wets the bed. I wont lie, it is very frustrating to have to deal with and I try my hardest not to show it. I too have tried everything from limiting drinks to trying to wake her. I have been told by her pedi and urologist that its something that she just needs to outgrow on her own. I am praying that it wont last another 3-4 years but I do not see it stopping anytime soon.
Jennifer
oh ok. Yeah i came here before making it a big deal.. I only make him clean up his sheets thats about all I do right now. If anything he sees the disappintment in my eyes when i see a wet bed. But frustration is usually contained between me and his dad
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
I'm sorry I think I said that wrong. :( in rereading it the last line sounded so bitchy and that was not not my intent You should be asking for advice for sure. I mean with him dont stress him about it and make it a huge deal in his life i know how frustrating it can be. .oh trust me I get that. My dd had 3 dry nights this week for THE FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE.
Quoting mamisjourney:A big deal??? Am I wrong or if this place for asking for advice on a subject I don't know about? That is what I am doing here...asking for advice, how is that making is a big deal???
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
Sigh..,, please don't punish him. My 9dd still wets. Most of the time it's because the hormone that stops urine production at night is weak or Deficient. This hormone is usually fully functioning by 2-3 but sometimes it's not. You can ask to see a Pediatric urologist who Specializes in bed wetting for some tips but really until the hormone develops the wetting will continue. Invest in some pull ups and stop making a big deal about it
Please feel free to add me as a friend if you need anyone to talk or vent to. I am right there with you with my 8 year old daughter.
Jennifer
Quoting mamisjourney:
oh ok. Yeah i came here before making it a big deal.. I only make him clean up his sheets thats about all I do right now. If anything he sees the disappintment in my eyes when i see a wet bed. But frustration is usually contained between me and his dad
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
I'm sorry I think I said that wrong. :( in rereading it the last line sounded so bitchy and that was not not my intent You should be asking for advice for sure. I mean with him dont stress him about it and make it a huge deal in his life i know how frustrating it can be. .oh trust me I get that. My dd had 3 dry nights this week for THE FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE.
Quoting mamisjourney:
A big deal??? Am I wrong or if this place for asking for advice on a subject I don't know about? That is what I am doing here...asking for advice, how is that making is a big deal???
Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:
Sigh..,, please don't punish him. My 9dd still wets. Most of the time it's because the hormone that stops urine production at night is weak or Deficient. This hormone is usually fully functioning by 2-3 but sometimes it's not. You can ask to see a Pediatric urologist who Specializes in bed wetting for some tips but really until the hormone develops the wetting will continue. Invest in some pull ups and stop making a big deal about it
How do you deal with a potty mouth?!
- mamisjourney
on Jan. 7, 2013 at 9:48 AM