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how to hide new pregnancy on drinking night?

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So my df and I aren't trying for a baby but haven't been careful either. We had unprotected sex on the second third fourth fifth and sixth with no protection and I'm ovulating either yesterday or today, though possibly on the sixth since I had some cramping that felt like ovulation that day too. I never have any problem becoming pregnant, that part is so effortless so I'm almost sure I will be after the last few days. My problem is staying pregnant. So if I am I won't want to tell df for a little while until I think it will stick. I always miscarry around weeks 7 to 8. But we have a regular every other weekend get together with his ex wife and her boyfriend who we are both really good friends with. We always play cards and drink. His ex wife knows I've wanted to get pregnant too, so it will be obvious if I try to get out of it or just don't drink. What should I do to keep it to myself until I'm ready? I don't want to tell df too soon and him be disappointed. And this is the first month I've had to really worry about it too much because we usually are more careful around my.ovulation.
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by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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christinad612
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:16 PM
Actually with each loss we've had he's gotten more disconnected. The last time we lost a baby he didn't even act like he cared or look away from the TV. It made dealing with it harder for me, so if I turn out to be pregnant again I'd rather keep it to myself until I know all is well.


Quoting Mommy2justone:

I think it is important to tell your fiance that you are pregnant right away, as that is his baby too, I would be devastated to find out I lost a baby and didn't know it. I think it would hurt more than the actual loss.



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crwspringer
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:24 PM
What is your drink of choice?

A pp had a good idea about replacing the booze in a bottle with a substitute.

Vodka - water or flat 7up
Jack - tea or diluted coke

By the way, I would give df the heads up on a potential pregnancy so he can help out with the drinking issue.
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ZakkarysMom
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:29 PM
I would say youre sick and just stay home.
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christinad612
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:31 PM
Also y'all they usually come to our house
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Mommynwife26
by Brianna on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:35 PM
If your df drinks your drinks have one and take SMALL sips like yoyr drinking then basically let him drink it that way they think your drinkimg but really its him. But id tell your df anyways in case something happens.

Quoting christinad612:

The migraine thing would work well since I do take medication for those. The screwdriver thing would work too except that df has an annoying habit of drinking my drinks so he would call me out lol
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DakotaHaley
by Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:38 PM

Well, I would pretend your drinking. Go in make yourself a drink like you normally would only without alcohol. They shouldn't question they will just assume.

   Or you can say your not feeling the greatest have a tummy ache or something small like that.

    Or you can drink one glass of wine very slowly.


FeliciaDurham
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:21 PM

I think the migraine would work. You could just stay in your room watching tv until they leave.good

thecoffeefairy
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:26 PM
I agree with the mock tails and a glass of wine.
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Bieg9093
by Bronze Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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 I'd say I was having heartburn and drink ginger ale.

And yes...you get to reveal a pregnancy on your own clock.  Sheesh!

christinad612
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 3:29 PM
Usually beer but sometimes dark mixed drinks. Honestly my df is usually in tune to when I'm pregnant and will probably figure it out on his own around the same time I know for sure but in case he doesn't I prefer to keep it to myself for a little bit.


Quoting crwspringer:

What is your drink of choice?



A pp had a good idea about replacing the booze in a bottle with a substitute.



Vodka - water or flat 7up

Jack - tea or diluted coke



By the way, I would give df the heads up on a potential pregnancy so he can help out with the drinking issue.

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