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Why would pediatrics refer my baby

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To a health and human services nurse? I'm so confused son just turned one and he just changed to a large daycare and is getting sick a lot more than when he went to an at home daycare. He was tested and very allergic to dairy and peanuts and has an epi pen ...well 4. He also had an ear infection that wouldnt go away for 2 months. He also has tummy trouble and was getting constipated. Anyway I just got a call from a nurse from health and human services , a state nurse, and she said to tell her about my son. Once I did she said that sounds like that's a lot and she wants to help me come up with a plan to figure out these issues. She said to keep a log of when he has stomach pain and she wants to meet next Friday and she can come over or I can go there. I mean she's really nice but what's this really about? I asked if I was doing something wrong or if I'm in trouble or taking him to the Dr to much and she said no and pediatrics should have told me she'd be calling me and that they referee me. I'm a single mom and don't have a husband to vent to so please help me figure out what's going on??? I also have a 4 yr old and no one from there has ever called.

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by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 7:37 PM
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by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 12:46 AM
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But if that were the case why wouldn't they have just referred her to a specialist for him? Someone who can look more deeply into her son's particular issues. And why wouldn't they have told her? It seems to me that a specialist, or a couple of them, would be more qualified to help with these issues than some...I don't know, government nurse? I never even knew they had such a thing. I wonder if she had had a husband going to the pedi visits with her if her son would have been referred to a specialist, instead of some government nurse who is obviously NOT specialized in her son's particular issues. I think a lot of people are quick to jump to conclusions about single moms. I'm not trying to worry you, OP, but I do find this strange really strange.

Quoting Jynnifer292:

 It does sound odd but perhaps she will be able to help figure out what is wrong. Perhaps he has other allergies too? Honestly, if she said that you could come to her, it sounds like she isn't investigating you. Otherwise, she would want to come to the house. Good luck.

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 12:59 AM

Sounds about right. We have a nurse call us once a month just to check in on my girls. She is just trying to help you be prepare for anything. Nurse calls a lot more during the flu,allergy season, or when the health department is really concerned about whatever ailment going around. 

I know it is scary and worrysome, but it helps to know someone else is worrying about your child with you.

There have also been a lot of changes made to insurances(private, or state funded) to where you have to take to the state nurse to come up with an action plan for your child. Doctors are suppose to tell you if they refer your child.

by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 1:20 AM

Not sure?

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 2:07 AM

I'm thinking it could be one of two things:

a).. the state is offering assistance, because of your child being ill.. these services are often free if not covered under your health insurance.. 


b) they could be worried that something at the day care may be causing your child to be more ill than what should be normal considering his health history.. and they may be investigating the day care.. 

by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 2:09 AM
Dont panic. When my 13 year old was 2 he was dx with a rare form of epliepsy. One of the peopl that helped me to take care of him was a Nurse from the county. Thats probably why youre getting a visit from thi nirse. Just another person to help manage your child health amd to make a home health plan.
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 4:20 AM
Hummm I live in Colorado also

My dd has been really sick this last year and we were going to her pediatric doctor and a specialist 2 times a week

Never had anyone call me


But like other people said maybe its just for extra help
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by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 6:02 AM

I dont like the sound of that... hmm.

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 6:29 AM

When DD was born premature, they had a nurse come out weekly to monitor her progress.  I don't know where she was from, but it sounds like they're just giving extra support to your child.  I wouldn't worry about it, but ask lots of questions and get tips on what you can do to improve his health.  It sounds like a good service to have.

by Gold Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 6:33 AM

sounds like a way for a busy body to worm their way into someone's life to make issues out of nothing that is there....proceed cautiously if you do meet up with her, and you should be meeting her in the public health building, NOT at your house.   Some of these people have sugar coated their intentions, and are not what they seem to be.  

by Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 6:40 AM

This type of thing is happening even in private insurance. They don't have state nurses, but case managers. If you are on state aid, this is a way to get a handle on his care and help reduce costs in the long run. 

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